What is 4me2realize?

What do you see in the Mirror?

There is a great book called the E-myth by Michael Gerber. If you run a business or want to, it is a MUST read, especially for small to medium sized business. If you want to one day be big, then Good to Great by Jim Collins is also an absolute MUST.

In E-myth Michael explains that a business, whatever it is, is an extension of yourself, your own personal beliefs and your own world view. Your business will reflect you.

When I looked at the business my husband and I had built, I could see it was true. A lot of the beliefs, values and characteristics of US, were ingrained into the corporate culture of our business, honesty, hard work, perseverance. Standard stuff, but we also had; daring to be different, fun, commonsense, and caring! These were unique to us and our business.

Our business very much reflected our strengths.... AND our weaknesses. So if our business wasn’t performing, we had no further to look, than ourselves. Sobering stuff. But also liberating....

If there are things around you, in your business, your job, your relationship, your health or wealth that are not proceeding as you would like them, the first place to look for solutions is within yourself.

In most cases, what appears around you, is a reflection of what is inside you. What at first appears external, is in fact very much influenced by your internal reality. The good news means that it can change. That’s liberating.

The hard lesson, is that to change anything in your world, the most effective place to start, is with yourself. For many people, it is easier to blame the economic climate, their partner, their boss, their parents, for their predicament. It is easier, but not effective.

When we try and change we come up against RESISTANCE. At this point most people resign themselves to the “way things are” and do their best to cope. Successful people are different. They use strategies and systems that make changing their internal reality and therefore their external circumstances, easy and effective. Drat them, it’s actually natural for them.

The happy news is, these systems and strategies can be learned, used and implemented by anyone with the will.

Using 4me2realize will guide you everyday to adopt habits, strategies, thinking, behaviour and systems that will make changing your circumstances easier and more fun than a tonne of excuses!

Get into the habits of the highly successful, design your own life and live on your terms.

Let me know what external circumstances you have found that reflect your internal reality and what you did or are doing to change it.

Kindest regards

Cas

Castaly Lombe -  Chief of Makin' Things Happen

Director Anti-Chaos Systems Pty Ltd

 

"Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi

Phone +61 1 300 344 070  www.4me2realize.com

GOALS IN YOUR GUILT ROOM? WHY WORK AND LIFE GOALS NEED DIFFERENT

Exuberant public speaker and software system design Company Director Castaly Lombe will give 2 free evening talks in Melbourne in August exposing the critical 3 things people need to achieve life goals.

She said “Most people are exposed to goal setting in the work place, and while there is some overlap, the productivity orientated goal setting style can be a poor model for people’s personal life goals.”

“For example, when a baby is learning to walk, we don’t apply S.M.A.R.T.  (Specific, measureable, achievable, realistic and timely). The baby walks when it is ready. There is a right time for every baby and everybody. Life goals are like that,” she said.

Mrs Lombe said this simple understanding would save people tonnes of guilt and reduce the number of people who abandoned goal setting altogether. 

“Unlike productivity driven work goals, when people set life goals, we are looking for passion that will drive us through the tough times! People need 3 important support elements. They need a Life Purpose on top and self reflection underneath. Goals are just part of a more complete picture of what the whole person becomes as they make this journey called life,” she said.

Most people do life goals without these support elements, New Year’s Resolutions are a good example, most fail.

Mrs Lombe will talk about tried and true, practical and useful methods people can use to achieve life goals as well as modern tools and systems, like the internet and iphone applications. She says finding your personal goal setting style is really important.

“I show people strategies that work, systems that help, methods available, but at the end of the day, people need to be open minded, curious, inventive and individual in finding what is right for them. I recommend structure and discipline, but I avoid prescription. One size does not fit all.”  

As Director of several software publishing companies Mrs Lombe has almost 20 years experience with systems and their design as well as working with people and teams.

Grattan Gardens Community Centre, 40 Grattan Street, Prahran

Wednesday 25 & Thursday 26  7-9pm. Ring 1300 344 070 to register

Upcoming Event – CASTALY LOMBE

http://www.sydneydreamteam.com/9th-august-intergrating-rpm-in-your-life/

Are you stressing out because you don’t have enough time? Do you constantly live your live day by day and at the end of the week realise that you haven’t actually achieved anything at all? Hows that ‘to do’ list looking? Are there about 50 items on there or are you too scared to even do one?

Are you spending your time doing the things that are important or urgent? Imagine what it would feel like if you could finally decide to take action and STOP. Stop procrastinating and instead choose a life of meaning, passion, joy and ecstacy.

I bet your asking how right about now. How can I start living the life i deserve? Simple, just choose to come along to the dream team event this month and find out not only the mindset of how, but go back with an amazing knowledge of the tools out there to help you make your life amazing

So boys and girls, ladies and gents, aliens and predators, get your phones out and load up your calendar programs and put in the following date and venue right now – August 9th at the Kirribilli Community Centre. 16-18 Fitzroy Street, Kirribilli NSW 2061.

Get together 7pm for socialising and for a 7:30pm start.

We have Castaly Lombe speaking about life / time management. Cataly is the director of 4me2realize software. This software is just like Tony’s RPM planner on steroids, but so much easier to use .. imagine the RPM program, but SUPERSIZED!

Castaly is a robbins Mastery University graduate just like most of you and has realised that the purpose in life is to be purposeful, not doing the things that are just easier to do in the moment.

Castaly is also a black belt in Soo Bahk Do, Korean Chinese traditional martial arts and is also a passionate horse rider

Castaly’s will engage with yourself on the following points in just the span of one evening

Purpose
Build into the big picture of who you are and the beautiful life you create.

Goals
Give people clarity and focus on what they want in their life
Plan
Reminding you to continue using the skills you learnt at Tony Robbins and connect with people in a supportive environment

So get yourself there. You know that this is a must event for yourself no matter where you are in your life! Once again to recap – August 9th at the Kirribilli Community Centre. 16-18 Fitzroy Street, Kirribilli NSW 2061.


Get together 7pm for socialising and for a 7:30pm start.

Stillness, silence and solitude

Stillness, silence and solitude

"Shut up! I can't hear myself think!" Have you heard, felt or said this? It is so noisy you can't think. You feel bombarded and overwhelmed. You can't concentrate or focus. There is so much clamouring for your attention, you don't know where to start.... sound familiar?

Have you ever wondered why every major religion has a meditative, prayerful, or retreat in solitude component? Why images of meditating monks on mountain tops resonates with us? Or solitary walks on beaches? 

(Picture taken this morning from my front veranda.)

Everyone recognises the need for stillness, silence and solitude, but how many of us get it, do it, experience it regularly? If you live in a big city, you never get a moment's silence, even in the depth of night, there is a background roar of traffic, machinery, artificial light dims the magnificence of the stars. You are never alone. Yet in the crowds we can feel the greatest isolation...how happy are you with your own company?

We are busy in a noisy, crowded world. When do you lay back, switch off, take time out? Think. Contemplate, stare. Rebalance to our natural state of serenity and calmness?

For most people in today's world, space for stillness, silence and solitude has to be scheduled and planned. Often it is not a priority against other competing demands.

Yet in the spaces we leave for stillness, silence and solitude, can be our greatest creative moments, insights, brilliant concepts conceived. Light bulb moments, life changing decisions. Without effort they come bidden into the spaces we allow. For humans contemplative time is essential to unwind and de-stress. To organise our thoughts and make sense of our lives.

Recently I visited Sydney for business. I was acutely aware of my senses being overloaded, by sounds and sights. I enjoyed the variety, intensity and excitement of the city. But I felt relieved to be home on the farm where there is not a billboard in sight. The silence is deafening and the stars are brilliant in the night sky. I am blessed to have this space around me all the time. But how do my city cousins cope? They are immune, unaware and unconscious, it has become background noise they ignore. In this way, we cope.

When you turn your senses off to the "hurly burley," it enables you to survive and thrive in a busy crowded environment.  You focus on what you need to do and the rest is filtered out. There is a risk that you will filter out some stuff you need to hear, feel and do.  That you disconnect from your awareness and consciousness. Good news, easy to fix, just make sure you have time for stillness, silence and solitude; and it doesn't have to be hard, try these;

·         Turn the radio/music  off sometimes

·         Turn off the TV for a day or a week

·         Visit a national park for a day and get into the bush

·         Meditate, pray or reflect

·         Listen more than talk

·         Get out of town to star gaze

·         Be alone

·         Find a place that is still or silent, and be still or silent in it

·         Lie on some grass and watch clouds or tree leaves

·         Be unoccupied with anything

·         Have a day doing nothing but whatever you feel like...

Finding space in your life for stillness, silence and solitude is a precious gift to yourself. You will be surprised at the results as you reconnect with feelings, sensations, feedback from your inner voice, yourself.

So next time you schedule the meeting, the shopping, whatever, plan some time for silence, stillness and solitude. Be amazed at what you discover within your own head space.

 4me2realize uses self reflection in the Journey section to help you hear your inner voice, to contemplate your life and make sense of what you do amidst the noise and clutter.

Wishing you stillness, silence and solitude....

Cas

Castaly Lombe -  Chief of Makin' Things Happen

Director Anti-Chaos Systems Pty Ltd

"Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi

Phone +61 1 300 344 070  www.4me2realize.com

How to Make it Easy

Often when we think about improving ourselves and our lives, we put it off, get daunted, overwhelmed and slump exhausted before we even begin!

How can improvement become easy? Well first, stop thinking about it as a fight, struggle, battle, act of iron willed discipline, or whatever you think.... These negative thoughts will undermine your enthusiasm and ultimately deliver what you don't want.

Change is easy when you know what to switch onto. Here's just one thing that will help.

Use you Reticular Activating System or RAS.  This part of your brain will actually notice what you need. So when looking for black socks, you don't notice the white ones. When someone calls your name in a crowd, you hear your name, not the background noise.

The RAS will, without any effort on your behalf, point out what you need.... if you're listening and focused. So a business man focused on a growing a business will see opportunities specific to his business. A woman teaching a child will find teaching resources ideal for her child's needs. 

It's like your brain organising the information that is bombarding you, and easily selects what it knows you are focusing on. Beware, however, if you focus on bad stuff. It does not discriminate. What you hold in your mind, the RAS will find for you. The RAS developed because to survive we must automatically focus on what we need. A hunter doesn't need to see the trees and bushes, just the shape or movement that signals prey. The brain is exceptional in filtering and finding just what you need.  And you can use this quirk of nature to make change in your life easy and accomplishable.

Focus regularly with clear bright visualisation, on what you want. Remind yourself (using 4me2realise is very easy) often to keep it in your consciousness. I am willing to bet that within hours or days, what you need will appear.

This has worked many times for me. I wanted a pony for my kids and a lady gave me one for free! I wanted a very rare sapphire ring, and one day it appeared in a market at the price I wanted to pay. I want to eat good food and that food is always in my life, because I focus on that food and give it my attention. Each week I sit down with recipe books and visualise the beautiful meals I will cook. It is no effort, it is a joy, to find this food on my table each evening. I love cooking and preparing it, because that is what I focus on. When you use your RAS, I have found that the things you create also appear at exactly the right time. Sometimes I think things appear late or early, but when I look back, the timing was perfect. This also works for people and business opportunities.

The trick is finding a way to keep what you want to create, in focus. 4me2realize has an excellent reminder system utilising your phone and email. It can be set to randomly send unexpected reminders, which have much more impact! And the reminders can be sent direct from your goals and projects.

It all helps.

Kindest regards

Cas

Castaly Lombe -  Chief of Makin' Things Happen

Director Anti-Chaos Systems Pty Ltd

 

"Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi

Phone +61 1 300 344 070  www.4me2realize.com

Too Busy to be better bullshit

This is 417 words, will take you less than 2 minutes to read and is about being too busy to improve your life.

Too Busy to be better bullshit

What stops you improving your life, increasing your happiness, creating more loving relationships, advancing your career or education, maintaining optimum health and fitness, carefully crafting abundance and wealth?

Most people tell me they’re too busy! To be blunt, that’s bullshit.

Busyness is a choice. A very popular choice too! It’s almost a national epidemic.

A long time ago I became aware that when I was asked “How are you?” I said without thinking, apologetically and always “I’m Busy!”

I decided to change that. I’m busy by choice, so no more apologising. I like being busy, to me it equates with a full life lived richly! But I didn’t like being stressed so I decided to focus on the things that were important to me. I’m still busy but a lot more fulfilled and a lot less stressed... This took me a few years to work out and a lot of courage to carry out. But really anyone can do it and it doesn’t need a few years to work it out.

Busyness is often a symptom. It’s a story you tell yourself to avoid having a real conversation about what is really meaningful in your life. It’s an excuse to delay some overdue soul-searching. Busyness often is a euphemism for chaos, clutter in our life that overwhelms us. You probably are busy, but busy with WHAT?

Here’s a checklist to try if you have the busyness bug.

1. Is all this busyness getting me to where I want to go? Do I Know where I am going? Do you have a life purpose?
2. Do I like and know what I’m doing, or am I on auto pilot? 
3. Do I have a system that helps me get clarity about what I do and don’t do! 
4. Have I got my goals written down?  
5. Do I review them regularly, to keep me on track? 
6. Do I have a good reminder system, to keep me on track?
7. What do I need to change? What is wasting my time?

The first and last questions are really important and I could write many words on just this! Another day perhaps! After all.... I don’t want to waste your time, you’re so busy! Let me just say, you can use 4me2realize to beat the busyness bug by getting focused on what’s really important in your life.

So now when people ask me “How are you?” I say “Great thanks, busy doing the things I love, how are you?” And then they say..... “Busy!”

Taming Monsters in Your Head

Have you ever struggled with wanting to do something but been immobilised by conflicting emotions? Its like having monsters in your head doing battle, thanks to www.monsters.net for the monster picture!

I sure have! And it can be paralysing for years.

I am training for my 2nd Dan Black belt in Soo Bahk Do, a very Traditional Korean Chinese Martial Art. www.worldmoodukkwan.com Or should I say more honestly, I’ve been procrastinating.... Being a petite 50kg 45 year old mum who is afraid of any violence I have sometimes struggled with my chosen sport. When I got sick of the conflict I sat down with pen and paper and did the following exercise;

Why do Soo Bahk Do?

The positives far outweighed the negatives and the negatives could be minimised. Then I got really emotionally associated or connected with the positives. I used the positive WHY’s to motivate me. And I imagined the negatives of not continuing to train, the loss, waste and failure. With these strong emotions I was able to make a commitment and actually felt very excited to be on my journey to a 2nd Dan Black belt with my son.

The message is don’t sit still and accept being immobilised. It really stops you moving on to other things in your life. It doesn’t matter what you decide, it doesn’t even matter if you make a wrong decision, just get off the fence. And if you are having trouble making a decision, analyse why, keep asking yourself why? Not making a decision is making a decision by default! World famous speaker Anthony Robbins says for good reason “our destiny lies in our decisions.”

These internal conflicts are also known as incongruence. It’s like being pulled mentally in two different decisions. It’s easy for people to say, “just make a decision,” but internally you are in conflict and it can be tricky to resolve. If you can’t make a decision, drill down into why. Get AWARE of what is stopping you and tackle it using emotions to unlock your unconscious limits and fears. If you can’t, then you MUST.

I simply took pen to paper and got analytical, then I got emotional, then I had all the motivation I needed. All I did was tame the monsters in my head.

Good luck with your monsters too....

All these principles are incorporated in 4me2realize.

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Kind regards

Cas

Triumph in the Challenge.

I can still remember my workmate telling me I have to start looking at buying property.

It is still so vivid the feeling. The story I had in my head. I can’t, I have this and that and this to take care of. I don’t have the money and all the other non-sense.

Then I started using 4me2realize. It wasn’t by choice at first, I had to test it! There was a lot of resistance. Especially because every time I logged in I was faced with this BURNING BLAZIN’ question. It is the first question which one has to answer before proceeding with the program.

 “What is your Purpose?”

It took me quite a while to come up with this.

But I am so glad I persevered. The rest was easy and fun!

I must add that this software has helped me tremendously.

I started using 4me2realize and noticed a lot of discrepancies in my life. Example, I was talking a whole lot about building wealth, and yet I found myself only spending 2% of my entire time doing something about it! I was contributing a whole chunk of my life to volunteering to help others. Whilst this is a very good and righteous thing to do – it was taking 27% of my time! Look at the difference. My health was at 5%! Shock horror! My wheel was all wonky so to speak.

I needed some serious re-vamping of my routine and thinking.

So that’s exactly what I did. I changed my ways in some areas slightly, in some areas drastically. I noted my entire journey in 4me2realize and attributed it to my specific goals. I constantly reviewed my progress. It is quite fun and exciting to see how far I’ve come.

There are even some areas where I’ve been challenged tremendously. Wealth! Gulp! I’ve seen 51% resistance in this area. And this is the beauty of it, I’ve been challenged, yet I persevered and...Remember when I only spent 2% of my time building wealth (this was 12 months ago) I’m now at 14%.

So now, only less than 18 months since my workmate spoke to me about purchasing property, I’ve bought land in a prestigious neighbourhood and built on it, went on a 7 week vacation round the world, registered a business in Malaysia in partnership with my current company, bought a new car and looking to expand my property portfolio. I’m a much happier and balanced person; I’ve spent more time with my family and friends. I am also healthier and leaner.

What more can I ask for?

In saying that, I’m still a work in progress. I am slowly tweaking my 4me2realize. But I’ve found 4me2realize keeps me focused, honest, and on-track. I’ve just recently put in new goals and projects for 2010. I’m excited to see my progress in 2010!

4me2realize isn’t a magic potion – that’s one thing I have to acknowledge. It is not to say you get your login and you’ll get what you’ve wished for. It is a tool. A tool that helps you achieve.

So compatriots, start Realizing. Triumph in your Challenges.

Yours sincerely

Iris

p/s: That's a picture of me in Montego Bay, Jamaica.

4me2realize : "My Goals"

Your goals contribute to your purpose, often directly and often indirectly. Life is a balance. Life is made of up stuff you can control and some stuff you can’t. 4me2realize goes easy on having “target dates” for this reason. As long as you can keep your goals in your conscious and why you must work towards them, you will be motivated to take action. As long as you are taking action you are achieving.

Think about what is a goal and what is a project. Don’t make a goal like “cycle 5 days a week” – this should be a project, the goal should be “to be healthy and fit”. If you cannot think of projects for this goal then it is probably not a goal.
We recommend that you don’t write down every single goal you have in your life now and for the next 50 years. Just the ones that currently have a “reason” and that you can work on now. You will also find as you gather knowledge and experience your goals might change so you need to have the space to be adaptable.
If you imagine a uni-cyclist, their balance is never “still”. Your weight is always shifting in a random pattern, the subconscious mind must constantly adapt to the purpose (to stay upright). If you find yourself under achieving in an area or goal, then adapt by using all of your resources.
When entering a goal you will be asked to associate it to a “life balance”. Life Balance is where you link your goal to an area of your life, i.e. family, friends, career, finance, health, etc. 4me2realize uses these life balance areas to analyze your activity once you start recording events. Life balance is dynamic. 4me2realize proposes the concept that “life balance” is the answer rather than the question, meaning we don’t start by defining life balance, but rather it is a result. The result, if unbalanced is a good opportunity to reflect and redirect your effort if required.
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How do you achieve balance without joining the circus?

618 words, about one and a half minutes to read

Thursday 19 November 2009 from my Michelago desk at 3.30pm

G’day,

Life balance is a often used phrase these days as we struggle to juggle life’s demands while walking the work/life balance tightrope. Sometimes it seems just another unachievable concept to tease and stress you!

(Source http://www.popartuk.com/)

Life balance is often measured using the wheel. The exercise involves dividing your life into categories and scoring your level of satisfaction in each category. Like in the wheel below.... then you find out, is your wheel balanced or wonky?

The theory is that a balanced wheel is where all areas of your life are scored evenly, and that a wonky wheel suggests areas of correction. This can be useful if you are aiming for a balanced wheel! But it can also be rather arbitrary, subjective and not so helpful. In my opinion, it misses the point!

What if you are a professional swimmer? Then Health and Fitness category, by necessity, would be maybe 75% of your life balance and many other things would score lowly, because this is what you must do to achieve excellence! You have to focus on what you want to achieve. This isn’t a wonky wheel or a life out of balance, this is a life designed around achievement of specific goals. The point is not getting a balanced life, but first deciding what you want and then balancing your life, actions and decisions to achieve what you want.

Rather than getting stressed about balance, it is much better to decide on what you want and then balance your life toward the achievement of these goals. This can be a huge revelation and reducer of stress.

The same applies to a woman who has made her priority to be a stay-at-home mum. Her Life Balance will be overwhelmingly weighted towards looking after the children and the home. Her career/work category is going to score low and there is nothing wrong with that if that is what she wants. If it’s not what she wants, then it’s time to reorganise.

The wheel can be a useful tool, but it is important to also remember that all of us go through different stages of life balance. For example, consider the Life balance in each of the following three cases...


Thee circles represent the time and energy three people in very different circumstances would spend on their career, recreation and relationships. The time they allocate is affected by Life stages and their own aspirations, not a subjective and arbitrary notion of Life Balance.

You see, how you run your life is entirely up to you and where you are at in your life and what you are trying to achieve.

When you use 4me2realise, we take the guesswork out of Life Balance. As you journal, especially against your goals and projects, you note how much time you dedicated to this. At any point you can see how much time you have spent on a project, on a big goal and in any Life Balance category you care to create. In this way you can assess and decide if your life is unbalanced or perfectly balanced to achieve your goals.

If your goal is to improve your finances yet you consistently spend most of your time in health and reaction, well it’s time to get real! 4me2realize doesn’t tell you what to do, but it very clearly helps you see what you are doing and get alignment with what you want.

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Kind regards
Cas

Who are you?

“Who are you and who do you want to be?” is the most important question when you start to create a plan for your life. You want to find out what your life’s purpose is because this will give you the reason for everything you do in your life.

It transforms cooking for the family, into a loving act of providing the family with lifelong habits of good nutrition and healthy living. You want to be a wonderful parent. How can cooking be a chore when it has this inspiring purpose?

This is the secret of motivating yourself to get what you want, start first with WHO you want to be.

Your Life’s Purpose, put simply, is something that you work towards all your life.

We all have a purpose but many of us have never thought to describe it in a sentence. Do not fear, a “purpose” is not final or ultimate. It is always evolving. It evolves as we gain more knowledge and experience of ourselves.
 
Here are a few tips to describing your purpose:

• It should be broad enough to encompass many aspects of your life.
• It should be something that you never complete.
• It should be something that gives you a good feeling.
• It should be something that contributes to others.

The following questions are helpful in reflecting on your purpose:

If somebody (or a universal guiding force) looked at your life and could see past, present and future, what would they say your purpose would be?

Assess your life experiences to date, your challenges, your gifts, and your opportunities. Find the direction and reason for these, and how they might contribute to a purpose. Look at what you contribute to family, friends, and colleagues. In conversation and consideration, what balance do you bring to the situation?

Have fun and start Realizing your Dreams Today!