What is 4me2realize, and how can it help you?

What’s wrong with goals and getting stuff?

For most of us, we’ve been told to write our goals, review them regularly and achieve them happily.

But we don’t do it.

I spoke last week with a lady that taught goal setting but didn’t use any of the strategies she taught!

Why is this? For some of us, it is overwhelm, but underneath, I think many of us find the whole process lacks any real meaning. Failed resolutions make us wary of a process that requires lots of effort and delivers so little.

There’s also an underlying distrust of a system that puts us on a treadmill.... achieve this goal, then you will be happy. Then what? Achieve another goal, suddenly it sounds like a trap, never ending, drudgery. And the happiness, mere illusion.

Inherently, we all understand stuff doesn’t buy happiness. But we are all pretty sold on the concept aren’t we? Who would knock back a nice new car, a big house, a status handbag, diamond ring, racing yacht/fishing charter, or on-snow chalet?

So why would anyone set goals if achieving the goal isn’t the outcome it’s cracked up to be? Exactly. So we don’t.... Yet the self help gurus continue to insist, set those goals. And we continue to resist. Get stuffed, go away, I just want to live my life doing what I love. Exactly. So why set goals?

For the journey.... ah ha. For what you learn along the way. NOT what you get, get it? For the emotions, the feelings, the experiences, the life lived fully. That’s why. And the best goal of all is a Life Purpose that guides you in all your seeking, questing, believing, in your noblest endeavours and the giving of your gifts...

And that’s why its recommend you start at the pointy end with your Life Purpose. Because when you align your goals to your driving, inspiring, motivating, passionate, fulfilling Life Purpose, all the empty drudgery of goal setting, goes away.

It changes from what you get, to what you give. It changes from stuff, to experiences. It changes from a trap to deeply satisfying. It becomes meaningful, because you are on a journey to realize your potential. You know exactly WHERE you are going.

And every challenge and unexpected event is just a bleep on the radar that guides you, effortlessly, consistently, faithfully, to realizing the greatness within you...

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.

Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.We are all meant to shine, as children do.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

The above quote is widely misattributed on the Web and elsewhere to Nelson Mandela's 1994 inaugural address. The author is Marianne Williamson, from her 1992 book, "Return to Love" (p. 165).

4me2realize can help you set goals that are aligned with your life purpose and journal daily against them, so goal setting becomes meaningful, motivating and achievable. Try it now for free, no credit card required, just go to our web site.

Thank you

Cas

Your DIY Funeral eulogy goes like....

I’d like to tell you about 4me2realize....

But first imagine you’re on your death bed. Now just stay with me here, imagine you’re sadly near death  and planning your own memorial service.

There’s a crowd and everyone is crying. What are they saying about you? Then someone steps confidently forward to summarise your own life... what do they say?

Where you kind, generous, loving, a fantastic family person, a successful business leader, a prodigious artist, a lawmaker, a peace maker, a soup kitchen volunteer? Did you touch hearts or mend fences? Did you change the world or lives?

Could you do it? Are you happy with your life so far? Or are you like most of us, a car without a steering wheel, a traveller without a map, a person without a clear, defining, driving, passionate purpose?  Do you know where you are going?

Success psychologists say that 95% - 97% of the people in the world do NOT have written goals and fail, while 3-5% have written goals and succeed. [1]

Mark McCormick in his book What They Don’t Teach You at Harvard Business School tells of a Harvard study conducted between 1979 and 1989.

In 1979, graduates of the MBA program were asked to set clear written goals for their future and their plans to accomplish them. It turned out only 3 percent of the graduates had written goals, 13 percent had goals but they were not in writing and 84 percent had no specific goals at all–aside from getting out of school and enjoying the summer.

Ten years later, in 1989, the researchers again interviewed the members of that same graduating class. They found that the 13 percent who had goals that were not in writing were earning, on average, twice as much as the 84 percent of students who had no goals at all. Most surprisingly, they found that the 3 percent of graduates who had clear, written goals were earning, on average, 10 times more than 97 percent of their graduating class. The only difference between the groups was the clarity of goals they had set (and spelled out) for themselves when they graduated.

Defining your purpose and aligning your goals to WHO you want to be makes goals getting much easier to achieve. 4me2realise is unique because first it asks, “what is your life purpose?” then it gets you to set congruent goals. And it is easy to use everyday so that you can really design the life of your dreams....whatever that may be, an art studio, a successful business, a big red sports car, a happy healthy family, changing the world.

Getting congruence or alignment stops the resistance, the tug of war between what you want and what stops you progressing.  Who has kept their New Year’s Resolutions?  Who doesn’t even bother anymore?  Resolutions without the reasons WHY are doomed. You need a strong emotional WHY to motivate you to achieve and you need congruence.

Knowing how to do this is CRITICAL to success. 4me2realize incorporates the best of modern psychology and technology to make it easy for you to integrate what you do everyday with your Life Purpose and Goals. It is more than just writing an “I want” or “to do” list.

It combines three powerful tools, Life Purpose, Goal setting and Journaling. As you journal against your goals, you slow your thinking down and start to recognise the behaviours that serve you and those that do not. In this way, change is easier. It asks you to analyse what you do, your brakes and your motivators...and in this way, accelerate your progress.

In summary 4me2realize is 3 in 1 software tool, that is integrated, interactive and online. A Virtual Life coach that you can use every day to design the life you want.

The good news is that you’re not dead. The bad news is you are dying. You don’t know when you’re time will be up. Life is not a test run. What is your eulogy? Don’t wait till your dead. Live the life of your dreams now. It is never too late or too soon to start.

With Kind regards....

Cas

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[1] A Study in Goal Setting By Tom Venuto, NSCA-CPT, CSCS   https://servere.mycosystems.com.au/exchweb/bin/redir.asp?URL=http://www.busywomensfitness.com/goalsetting.html

The Truth Shop a modern fairytale

I could hardly believe my eyes when I saw the name of the shop: THE TRUTH SHOP.


The salesgirl was very polite: What type of truth did I wish to purchase, partial or whole?

The whole truth, of course. No deceptions for me, no defences, no rationalizations. I wanted my truth plain and unadulterated. She waved me on to another side of the store.

The salesman there pointed to the price tag. "The price is very high, sir," he said. "What is it?" I asked, determined to get the whole truth, no matter what it cost. "Your security, sir," he answered.

I came away with a heavy heart. I still need the safety of my unquestioned beliefs.

And so the story goes.... but what does it all mean? Well, have you tried the truth test?

If something is true, it is true for everyone.


The temperature is 27 degrees is true. But only right here, right now, for me only, give me a minute and it is no longer true!....arg Truth can be a tricky, slippery little customer....

“You have to work hard to get ahead,” is not true. Our heads are full of beliefs that we dress up as truths. Why? These truths (belief systems) give us security! That is why we hold on to them sooooo tightly.

They were given to us before we ever asked for them or knew what they were. They are like unasked for gifts of dubious quality. They come from parents and teachers and childhood experiences. They create our patterns of thinking and behaviour. We have become accustomed, comfortable, dependable and familiar with them because they make us feel safe.
“ A tooth for a tooth, and eye for an eye.”

“Only nice people get good things,”

“ You can never get enough.”

“I am never good enough”

But because they are beliefs, they are just creations in our heads. I can create any truth (belief) in my head. And I can change and choose what to believe.


With this understanding, “The truth,” morphs into something resembling a heat haze on the horizon. It looks substantial, like life giving water, but when you get there, it is nothing!

You can change what is true for you any day you want, but the price is security. To get something new, you must give up the old to make space for the new.

To test the truth of anything ask yourself, “if this is true, is it true for everyone?” This is your “truth-from-belief” filter. A very useful tool!
When something is not true for everyone, you have a belief. Celebrate. You have the freedom to change and choose.


This will work wonders when people start a sentence saying “Honestly.... blah blah blah”
When they dress up their beliefs as absolute truth (no names mentioned)... To throw them off, simply say, “if that was true, it would be true for everyone, and that is not true for me. I appreciate and hear your opinion, (call it what it is) and I understand this is TRUE FOR YOU....but I have another perspective, would you like to listen?”


If the answer is no, move on! Not everyone is ready to pay the full price for getting to the truth on truth ie letting go of their truth (insert belief)!
Hope that helps.


Love always on the journey

Photographic acknowledgment http://lorrainemd.deviantart.com/art/Blinded-by-Truth-19212014


Artist's Comments

we blind ourselves,

when it stands before our eyes,

for it is often easier

to cradle our daily lies

How awesome is that!

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Kind regards
Cas

My Life Purpose

This article is 795 words and will take you about 2 minutes to read and will help you create an amazing driving, inspiring Life Purpose, the foundation up on which you can with clarity and focus build the rest of your amazing life...

What is the Purpose of your LIFE? BIG question.

I can’t tell you the number of people who stumble at this point. Stare at the screen for hours. Give up.

My advice is to persist, preserve. The reward is just amazing.

 When you nut it out, it is like sunlight streaming through clouds, you may hear an orchestra playing or angels singing. Your heart is light as a feather. Everything falls into place. You may laugh, you may cry with relief.

 Well that’s what happened to me. Everything made sense, all my life’s mistakes and achievements all meant something. I could see them leading me to this point and I could clearly see a path ahead. It was an enlightening, joyful moment. I wanted to share it with everyone I was so excited!

 A lot of people who love their jobs confuse their work with their life purpose. What you have to tease out is “what is it about my work that I love?” What are the essential elements unique to me, that I love?

 On the weekend I meet an old friend who is a press photographer. He’s been working for the same local paper for over 20 years. He isn’t just taking pictures, he wouldn’t still be there if it was “just” a job. He is a remarkable individual. Everyone loves and knows him. If I was to analyse him, his life purpose may be “to creatively portray and interpret the world in a way that captures, connects and moves people deeply to reflect and transform their own lives.”

 Notice, there is nothing about taking pictures in his Life Purpose? His camera just happens to be his current “tool” of choice... He can do this with any tool, in any role, with his kids, his wife, in his retirement, and today working for the local newspaper. And it sums him up perfectly, taking fantastic photos and connecting people throughout the local community. It isn’t just about him, but also about what he gives to the world through his talents.

 If you hate your job, then think about the things you love doing. Surfing? Horse riding gardening, painting pictures, helping people? What really turns you on? What gets you out of bed in the morning without an alarm clock?

Now what is it about these things that you love? What is behind it? What is essential to your character that is being satisfied when you do this activity? When you find that, you have found an element of your life purpose. Hooray!

 Craft it into some words. Take your time. This is your precious life.

 When I looked at my life, the things I loved best were writing and communicating to effect positive change. It was a common thread across several DIFFERENT careers, including motherhood, journalism and running a company. Creating change really turned me on and that is the main element of my Life Purpose today, to change the world and make it a better place... I do this by improving myself, raising great kids, running a successful business, selling my software. It encompasses everything I do and it so turns me on!

Your Life Purpose should encompass ALL aspect of your life, whatever life stage you are at, or whatever job you are doing. For example, selling Avon, as I did as a student, gave me many skills I later used in journalism! Being persistent was one! So it doesn’t matter if you are doing a job which isn’t your perfect job, because if you have a clearly defined Life Purpose, you’ll find the things in this job, that you have to learn, to get you to where you want to go...

Don’t limit your Life Purpose to the job you are doing, make sure it includes WHO you are when you are a lover, partner, parent, retired, working, playing, relaxing, being the one, true, unique, marvellous, amazing individual that is, the remarkable, ONLY YOU!

 Good luck with the Big Question, when you get it right, the small stuff is easy and it no longer dictates your life.


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Kind regards

Cas

Taming Monsters in Your Head

Have you ever struggled with wanting to do something but been immobilised by conflicting emotions? Its like having monsters in your head doing battle, thanks to www.monsters.net for the monster picture!

I sure have! And it can be paralysing for years.

I am training for my 2nd Dan Black belt in Soo Bahk Do, a very Traditional Korean Chinese Martial Art. www.worldmoodukkwan.com Or should I say more honestly, I’ve been procrastinating.... Being a petite 50kg 45 year old mum who is afraid of any violence I have sometimes struggled with my chosen sport. When I got sick of the conflict I sat down with pen and paper and did the following exercise;

Why do Soo Bahk Do?

The positives far outweighed the negatives and the negatives could be minimised. Then I got really emotionally associated or connected with the positives. I used the positive WHY’s to motivate me. And I imagined the negatives of not continuing to train, the loss, waste and failure. With these strong emotions I was able to make a commitment and actually felt very excited to be on my journey to a 2nd Dan Black belt with my son.

The message is don’t sit still and accept being immobilised. It really stops you moving on to other things in your life. It doesn’t matter what you decide, it doesn’t even matter if you make a wrong decision, just get off the fence. And if you are having trouble making a decision, analyse why, keep asking yourself why? Not making a decision is making a decision by default! World famous speaker Anthony Robbins says for good reason “our destiny lies in our decisions.”

These internal conflicts are also known as incongruence. It’s like being pulled mentally in two different decisions. It’s easy for people to say, “just make a decision,” but internally you are in conflict and it can be tricky to resolve. If you can’t make a decision, drill down into why. Get AWARE of what is stopping you and tackle it using emotions to unlock your unconscious limits and fears. If you can’t, then you MUST.

I simply took pen to paper and got analytical, then I got emotional, then I had all the motivation I needed. All I did was tame the monsters in my head.

Good luck with your monsters too....

All these principles are incorporated in 4me2realize.

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And if you order now you’ll get 3 months of free on-line support and a year of FREE upgrades.


Kind regards

Cas

Analyse Yourself - Ask Powerful questions

Does deep analysis of yourself raise unpleasant images of ink blots or psychiatrists couches? Something for the mentally ill but not normal people, like us right?

Yet, by understanding ourselves deeply, we are incredibly empowered to harness our potential. So how come it’s such a taboo?

The space in our heads is full of stuff, longings, desires, moods, thoughts, our very being, personality and spirit. What we choose to show the world and what we choose to hide, sometimes even from ourselves. Our conscious and unconscious thoughts guide us daily in a multitude of decisions and actions. I don’t think about breathing or swallowing and sometimes I don’t think about what I’m saying!

I have a very cute fridge magnet given to me by my long suffering family. It features a remorseful polar bear saying “I can’t believe I said that!” Don’t you know that feeling? You wonder whatever possessed you to say that, or do that?

What’s worse is when it happens more than once! Guilty! At some stage we wake up, work out what’s going down and make conscious choices about what we are going to think, decide and do. That is progress!

One really useful tool to create this awareness faster is self reflection.

I used journaling for years, and that helped, but you can turbo charge this by asking a few probing questions. Don’t limit this to the negative stuff, use it too on the great things in your life. After all, that’s what we all want more of!

So, say you are writing or thinking about your day and it was a bummer. You felt emotionally drained and fragile. Do you accept that or to you use this bad day as a gift – a lesson you need? Do you ask yourself good questions? Where you the person you wanted to be, to achieve the things you desire? So if you want to be super successful is moping around getting your outcome? If you see yourself as happy, confident and persistent, why are you choosing fragile and emotional?

Often people think they have no choice about how they feel. But we all make choices, and unless you’re chronically mentally ill, you have a choice about what you feel. This is a really important insight. I have seen athletes give more than is physically possible and I know sleep deprived mums get up again to comfort crying children at 2am when they can hardly put one foot in front of another. We all know we are capable of greatness, Marianne Williamson, from her 1992 book, "Return to Love" (p. 165) say’s it beautifully.
So when you think about your day, bummer that it was, ask yourself was I the person I needed to be? This is a great question because it leads to WHO do I need to be. If you have no idea, you’re not alone. Lots of people have never really given it a lot of thought. Yet this is so powerful. If you want to be successful in business what sort of personality characteristics would you have to have? If you want to be a great nurse, then what sort of person would you have to be? Write them down, stick them up, become conscious and aware of when YOU ARE and when you’re NOT WHO you want to be. Analyse what is happening and bring it to the forefront of your conscious mind. It’s like jamming your foot on the accelerator of self improvement.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us.”

And what’s really great about this mental exercise is there is no sweat involved. You can do it in the car, turn off the radio and just think! In the bus, waiting in queues, try out this mental gymnastics and turn your down time into insightful moments!

There are two more powerful questions you can use. What motivates you and what slows you down. These are your accelerators and brakes. Your motivators and your depressors.

Now I certainly have driven my car down the driveway with the handbrake on and its like that in life. The brakes are on but often we just keep driving wondering why we are going so slow! Some of my brakes are negativity and fear. I’m also a procrastinator. As soon as I analysed my brakes , became aware and looked at my days in terms of what brakes I engaged or avoided, some really big problems just went away! All I did was become aware and changed the way I thought about stuff in my head. No sweat.

I also looked at what motivated me and when I realised beauty and love motivated me, I found ways to create more of that in my life. I went to art galleries and nature parks, spent time with family and friends, and got inspired and happy. By knowing what motivated me I could consciously use it to keep my engine burning, even when inevitable challenges turned up!

So try these questions; Was I who I needed to be? Did I avoid or engage the brakes, and what drives me? Did I use that?

By regularly being quiet, contemplative and analyitical, you start to unravel your own head and understand yourself and how you can accelerate your progress to realize your dreams.

All of these question are part of 4me2realize which streamlines the whole process so you can quickly apply it to your everyday life.

If you would like to try it....

All these principles are incorporated in 4me2realize.

Why not try it now, for free for 60 days!

And if you order now you’ll get 3 months of free on-line support and a year of FREE upgrades.

Yours sincerely
Cas

It's all About YOU!

Using 4me2realize launches you on a journey of self discovery. Here's a sneak peak at what you'll dicover in 4me2realize;

• How to create a Life Purpose that inspires and motivates you to achieve your goals and projects with no effort or discipline
• How to identify the thoughts and actions that sabotage your good intentions
• What is incongruence and how to recognize it and how to stop it stalling your decisions and actions.

Who are you?

“Who are you and who do you want to be?” is the most important question when you start to create a plan for your life. You want to find out what your life’s purpose is because this will give you the reason for everything you do in your life.

It transforms cooking for the family, into a loving act of providing the family with lifelong habits of good nutrition and healthy living. You want to be a wonderful parent. How can cooking be a chore when it has this inspiring purpose?

This is the secret of motivating yourself to get what you want, start first with WHO you want to be.

Your Life’s Purpose, put simply, is something that you work towards all your life.

We all have a purpose but many of us have never thought to describe it in a sentence. Do not fear, a “purpose” is not final or ultimate. It is always evolving. It evolves as we gain more knowledge and experience of ourselves.
 
Here are a few tips to describing your purpose:

• It should be broad enough to encompass many aspects of your life.
• It should be something that you never complete.
• It should be something that gives you a good feeling.
• It should be something that contributes to others.

The following questions are helpful in reflecting on your purpose:

If somebody (or a universal guiding force) looked at your life and could see past, present and future, what would they say your purpose would be?

Assess your life experiences to date, your challenges, your gifts, and your opportunities. Find the direction and reason for these, and how they might contribute to a purpose. Look at what you contribute to family, friends, and colleagues. In conversation and consideration, what balance do you bring to the situation?

Have fun and start Realizing your Dreams Today!