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Don’t Be Afraid to Jump.

Oct 19 2010

by Castaly Lombe

“Be the change you want to see in the world” – Mahatma Ghandi

I clarified why I’m here in 2007. It is to use my unlimited love and boundless creativity and enthusiasm to move, awaken and open people to the possibilities in themselves and in this amazing world and be an agent for positive change.

When I clarified this into words, it was like a chorus of angels started singing. Suddenly I understood how everything that had happened, good and bad, had conspired to bring me to that point. I could also see very clearly where I was going and what I needed to do. I was so inspired.

My husband and I had established a software company in 1989. It is very successful — #1 in its niche. I had learned tons building the business with him and our amazing team. He was very happy, but I was struggling with motivation. We set up Anti-Chaos Systems in 2006 and its first product flopped. It wasn’t aligned with my purpose. Then, in 2009, we released 4me2realize. What followed has been amazing.

Starting a new venture is full of pitfalls. Most businesses fail in the first 5 years. We are no exception; getting traction has been exasperating. But, do you want to know something really weird? Even though we are just starting and experiencing some real challenges, I am having the best time!

The things that would have once sent me sideways or backwards, both personally and professionally, are just blips on a radar that is guiding me towards a greater vision. Motivation is not a problem. I never work. I am playing everyday, discovering and learning more than I ever have before. It might look like work to some, but if you are coming from your heart it’s just pure joy.

4me2realize is perfectly aligned with my purpose. It helps people realize their potential. In building this business I use all of my God-given skills. I get people all of the time telling us how they connect with and love 4me2realize, how it helps them build the life they love and fulfill their purpose.

I am frugal by nature and my husband and I are investing a lot in 4me2realize. I feel like I have jumped off of a cliff because all my fears about money are free falling. I am shit scared a lot! You take a risk to follow your heart. Then, you discover what it takes to have faith in yourself. After a while, instead of being scared and falling, you start to fly. It is exhilarating.

I don’t want to mislead you; this transformation has had some dark, muddy, slippery, cold and fearful moments. The burning light was and is to clearly follow my purpose. It’s like a guarantee. If I am true to myself, then everything will be alright. I cannot go wrong if my burning desire is true. And there is some pain and resistance and self-awareness that must be unlocked. All I can say is… the seeking is worth the reward.

In today’s busy, competitive world, it’s so easy to get distracted and sidetracked. When I get lost, I go back to my purpose. It gives me comfort, strength, guidance, direction, motivation and determination.

What is really weird is that once you get hooked into your Why, it doesn’t really matter what you do, or what other people think. Conventional definitions of success and failure melt away. You have your own yardstick. Your life purpose doesn’t limit you to one thing — it frees you to do what makes your heart sing, whatever that may be.

With heart singing passion, joy, love and enthusiasm,

Castaly Lombe

PS Here’s a poem that sums up everything 

One Hundred Possibilities, One Authentic Life

When you think there is only one option
There are walls and limitations.

There are one hundred possibilities
for you to realize your potential.

How do you transform boundaries
into boundless opportunities?

Let your thoughts run free
as they were meant to be: creatively.

When you have one hundred possibilities
pick the one that suits your best. Be true to you.
Know WHY you do what you want to do.

When you have one hundred possibilities,
You have a choice.
Choose who you are, Choose how you will live.
Choose your rules. Choose the meaning.

When you have one hundred possibilities,
you have to decide –
Who do you want to be? What’s important?
When do you let go and move on?
Change. Take responsibility.

When you have one hundred possibilities,
you have to take action.
Action that resonates and motivates.
Action that inspires and frightens you.
Action that ignites the fires of creation and brilliance
that for so long lay dormant within you, softly burning.
Massive action that stuns you from the stupors of mediocrity.

When you have one hundred possibilities
the chains that shackle you break.
Your heart opens.
When you have one hundred possibilities
you can live one, authentic life.

Source: http://liveyourwhy.com/

	CASTALY LOMBE Chief of Makin' it Happen
	Be the change you want to see in the world. - Mahatma Gandhi

  

 

How to Make it Easy

Often when we think about improving ourselves and our lives, we put it off, get daunted, overwhelmed and slump exhausted before we even begin!

How can improvement become easy? Well first, stop thinking about it as a fight, struggle, battle, act of iron willed discipline, or whatever you think.... These negative thoughts will undermine your enthusiasm and ultimately deliver what you don't want.

Change is easy when you know what to switch onto. Here's just one thing that will help.

Use you Reticular Activating System or RAS.  This part of your brain will actually notice what you need. So when looking for black socks, you don't notice the white ones. When someone calls your name in a crowd, you hear your name, not the background noise.

The RAS will, without any effort on your behalf, point out what you need.... if you're listening and focused. So a business man focused on a growing a business will see opportunities specific to his business. A woman teaching a child will find teaching resources ideal for her child's needs. 

It's like your brain organising the information that is bombarding you, and easily selects what it knows you are focusing on. Beware, however, if you focus on bad stuff. It does not discriminate. What you hold in your mind, the RAS will find for you. The RAS developed because to survive we must automatically focus on what we need. A hunter doesn't need to see the trees and bushes, just the shape or movement that signals prey. The brain is exceptional in filtering and finding just what you need.  And you can use this quirk of nature to make change in your life easy and accomplishable.

Focus regularly with clear bright visualisation, on what you want. Remind yourself (using 4me2realise is very easy) often to keep it in your consciousness. I am willing to bet that within hours or days, what you need will appear.

This has worked many times for me. I wanted a pony for my kids and a lady gave me one for free! I wanted a very rare sapphire ring, and one day it appeared in a market at the price I wanted to pay. I want to eat good food and that food is always in my life, because I focus on that food and give it my attention. Each week I sit down with recipe books and visualise the beautiful meals I will cook. It is no effort, it is a joy, to find this food on my table each evening. I love cooking and preparing it, because that is what I focus on. When you use your RAS, I have found that the things you create also appear at exactly the right time. Sometimes I think things appear late or early, but when I look back, the timing was perfect. This also works for people and business opportunities.

The trick is finding a way to keep what you want to create, in focus. 4me2realize has an excellent reminder system utilising your phone and email. It can be set to randomly send unexpected reminders, which have much more impact! And the reminders can be sent direct from your goals and projects.

It all helps.

Kindest regards

Cas

Castaly Lombe -  Chief of Makin' Things Happen

Director Anti-Chaos Systems Pty Ltd

 

"Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi

Phone +61 1 300 344 070  www.4me2realize.com

Your DIY Funeral eulogy goes like....

I’d like to tell you about 4me2realize....

But first imagine you’re on your death bed. Now just stay with me here, imagine you’re sadly near death  and planning your own memorial service.

There’s a crowd and everyone is crying. What are they saying about you? Then someone steps confidently forward to summarise your own life... what do they say?

Where you kind, generous, loving, a fantastic family person, a successful business leader, a prodigious artist, a lawmaker, a peace maker, a soup kitchen volunteer? Did you touch hearts or mend fences? Did you change the world or lives?

Could you do it? Are you happy with your life so far? Or are you like most of us, a car without a steering wheel, a traveller without a map, a person without a clear, defining, driving, passionate purpose?  Do you know where you are going?

Success psychologists say that 95% - 97% of the people in the world do NOT have written goals and fail, while 3-5% have written goals and succeed. [1]

Mark McCormick in his book What They Don’t Teach You at Harvard Business School tells of a Harvard study conducted between 1979 and 1989.

In 1979, graduates of the MBA program were asked to set clear written goals for their future and their plans to accomplish them. It turned out only 3 percent of the graduates had written goals, 13 percent had goals but they were not in writing and 84 percent had no specific goals at all–aside from getting out of school and enjoying the summer.

Ten years later, in 1989, the researchers again interviewed the members of that same graduating class. They found that the 13 percent who had goals that were not in writing were earning, on average, twice as much as the 84 percent of students who had no goals at all. Most surprisingly, they found that the 3 percent of graduates who had clear, written goals were earning, on average, 10 times more than 97 percent of their graduating class. The only difference between the groups was the clarity of goals they had set (and spelled out) for themselves when they graduated.

Defining your purpose and aligning your goals to WHO you want to be makes goals getting much easier to achieve. 4me2realise is unique because first it asks, “what is your life purpose?” then it gets you to set congruent goals. And it is easy to use everyday so that you can really design the life of your dreams....whatever that may be, an art studio, a successful business, a big red sports car, a happy healthy family, changing the world.

Getting congruence or alignment stops the resistance, the tug of war between what you want and what stops you progressing.  Who has kept their New Year’s Resolutions?  Who doesn’t even bother anymore?  Resolutions without the reasons WHY are doomed. You need a strong emotional WHY to motivate you to achieve and you need congruence.

Knowing how to do this is CRITICAL to success. 4me2realize incorporates the best of modern psychology and technology to make it easy for you to integrate what you do everyday with your Life Purpose and Goals. It is more than just writing an “I want” or “to do” list.

It combines three powerful tools, Life Purpose, Goal setting and Journaling. As you journal against your goals, you slow your thinking down and start to recognise the behaviours that serve you and those that do not. In this way, change is easier. It asks you to analyse what you do, your brakes and your motivators...and in this way, accelerate your progress.

In summary 4me2realize is 3 in 1 software tool, that is integrated, interactive and online. A Virtual Life coach that you can use every day to design the life you want.

The good news is that you’re not dead. The bad news is you are dying. You don’t know when you’re time will be up. Life is not a test run. What is your eulogy? Don’t wait till your dead. Live the life of your dreams now. It is never too late or too soon to start.

With Kind regards....

Cas

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[1] A Study in Goal Setting By Tom Venuto, NSCA-CPT, CSCS   https://servere.mycosystems.com.au/exchweb/bin/redir.asp?URL=http://www.busywomensfitness.com/goalsetting.html

Analyse Yourself - Ask Powerful questions

Does deep analysis of yourself raise unpleasant images of ink blots or psychiatrists couches? Something for the mentally ill but not normal people, like us right?

Yet, by understanding ourselves deeply, we are incredibly empowered to harness our potential. So how come it’s such a taboo?

The space in our heads is full of stuff, longings, desires, moods, thoughts, our very being, personality and spirit. What we choose to show the world and what we choose to hide, sometimes even from ourselves. Our conscious and unconscious thoughts guide us daily in a multitude of decisions and actions. I don’t think about breathing or swallowing and sometimes I don’t think about what I’m saying!

I have a very cute fridge magnet given to me by my long suffering family. It features a remorseful polar bear saying “I can’t believe I said that!” Don’t you know that feeling? You wonder whatever possessed you to say that, or do that?

What’s worse is when it happens more than once! Guilty! At some stage we wake up, work out what’s going down and make conscious choices about what we are going to think, decide and do. That is progress!

One really useful tool to create this awareness faster is self reflection.

I used journaling for years, and that helped, but you can turbo charge this by asking a few probing questions. Don’t limit this to the negative stuff, use it too on the great things in your life. After all, that’s what we all want more of!

So, say you are writing or thinking about your day and it was a bummer. You felt emotionally drained and fragile. Do you accept that or to you use this bad day as a gift – a lesson you need? Do you ask yourself good questions? Where you the person you wanted to be, to achieve the things you desire? So if you want to be super successful is moping around getting your outcome? If you see yourself as happy, confident and persistent, why are you choosing fragile and emotional?

Often people think they have no choice about how they feel. But we all make choices, and unless you’re chronically mentally ill, you have a choice about what you feel. This is a really important insight. I have seen athletes give more than is physically possible and I know sleep deprived mums get up again to comfort crying children at 2am when they can hardly put one foot in front of another. We all know we are capable of greatness, Marianne Williamson, from her 1992 book, "Return to Love" (p. 165) say’s it beautifully.
So when you think about your day, bummer that it was, ask yourself was I the person I needed to be? This is a great question because it leads to WHO do I need to be. If you have no idea, you’re not alone. Lots of people have never really given it a lot of thought. Yet this is so powerful. If you want to be successful in business what sort of personality characteristics would you have to have? If you want to be a great nurse, then what sort of person would you have to be? Write them down, stick them up, become conscious and aware of when YOU ARE and when you’re NOT WHO you want to be. Analyse what is happening and bring it to the forefront of your conscious mind. It’s like jamming your foot on the accelerator of self improvement.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us.”

And what’s really great about this mental exercise is there is no sweat involved. You can do it in the car, turn off the radio and just think! In the bus, waiting in queues, try out this mental gymnastics and turn your down time into insightful moments!

There are two more powerful questions you can use. What motivates you and what slows you down. These are your accelerators and brakes. Your motivators and your depressors.

Now I certainly have driven my car down the driveway with the handbrake on and its like that in life. The brakes are on but often we just keep driving wondering why we are going so slow! Some of my brakes are negativity and fear. I’m also a procrastinator. As soon as I analysed my brakes , became aware and looked at my days in terms of what brakes I engaged or avoided, some really big problems just went away! All I did was become aware and changed the way I thought about stuff in my head. No sweat.

I also looked at what motivated me and when I realised beauty and love motivated me, I found ways to create more of that in my life. I went to art galleries and nature parks, spent time with family and friends, and got inspired and happy. By knowing what motivated me I could consciously use it to keep my engine burning, even when inevitable challenges turned up!

So try these questions; Was I who I needed to be? Did I avoid or engage the brakes, and what drives me? Did I use that?

By regularly being quiet, contemplative and analyitical, you start to unravel your own head and understand yourself and how you can accelerate your progress to realize your dreams.

All of these question are part of 4me2realize which streamlines the whole process so you can quickly apply it to your everyday life.

If you would like to try it....

All these principles are incorporated in 4me2realize.

Why not try it now, for free for 60 days!

And if you order now you’ll get 3 months of free on-line support and a year of FREE upgrades.

Yours sincerely
Cas

Journal Writing - Power and Pitfalls

This letter is 795 words and will take you two and a half minutes to read. It gives insights on the power and pitfalls of writing journals.

The Pros and Cons of Keeping a Diary

Thursday 2 December 2010 From my Canberra desk

G’day,

Many people think of journaling as a “Dear Diary” type of self absorbed and useless exercise. And it can be that. Or it can be a gift of clarity. The difference between the two is structure and discipline.

I have used a journal for years. The developmental stages of my journal charts my personal growth. In my youth, it was a completely unstructured, self absorbed, stream of consciousness narrative. Reading back is nauseating! In my middle years it became more structured and positive, starting with a section on gratitude. No longer seriously self absorbed  but probably not that riveting to anyone else but me. And that’s Ok, it’s for my eyes only.

And while this was a wonderful improvement, I was still having problems. It was hard to track progress on individual goals in my life, it was chronological rather than subject organised. It was hard to remember and look up particular life lessons learned or anything else, no search function! It wasn’t secure and subject to getting lost or read by others! And it was painfully slow and time seems to be speeding up and I had less to spend journaling!

Journals are however priceless when it comes to problem solving and that’s why they survive. You can have a conversation with yourself, stating the problem, and then systematically raising and evaluating solutions.

Because you have to write it down, you have to slow down your thinking. This is very beneficial. Our thoughts are lightning fast. It’s not till you really question your thinking, make the unconscious conscious, that you realize how your thinking is influencing your actions.

Everything starts with a thought.

Not all our thinking serves us well. Slowing down your thinking by writing will help people identify more clearly what is driving or not serving them.

That’s where the second tenant of journal writing comes into effect. Using structure and discipline will stop you sliding into self centred absorption. Ideally you want your writing to slow your thinking so you can identify the things that serve you and those that don't in your thinking and behaviour. There is a trap, in self centred writing, to use the writing medium to justify yourself to yourself. Not very searching, but satisfying if you are content to stay where you are.

By using structure in your journal, you are being guided to analyse your thinking and your actions with an intellectual discipline. If your goal is to buy a house and you’re no closer to you outcome; what would you prefer, to know your right in whatever story you tell yourself, or identify the thinking and behaviour which is limiting you from achieving your goal?

At the end of the day it's your choice. You have to accept the rescue.

My final journal development is 4me2realize. It solves the problems I was having with my journal. It is secure, protected, can’t be lost and it’s structured. I can look at entries by subject or in chronological order, like a normal daily journal. It also helps analyse what I do in relation to my Life Purpose, which gives me clarity. It also helps me see when I am engaging the behaviours that help me and those that do not serve me. It took me a while to “realize” that this system was better that what had taken me years to develop, but when I did, I was hooked.

4me2realise is great for people who are not good at writing, or don’t like writing. The entries can be short and quick and 4me2realize will link them to your overall goals and projects. You can quickly see what you are doing and what is working for you and what is not happening. The journal writing will give you clarity and 4me2realise will pull all your life together into a meaningful whole. After all, you life is not separate bits, but a whole, marvellous life.

It’s your life to be lived, enjoyed and realized.

All these principles are incorporated in 4me2realize.

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Kind regards
Cas