What is 4me2realize?

GOALS IN YOUR GUILT ROOM? WHY WORK AND LIFE GOALS NEED DIFFERENT

Exuberant public speaker and software system design Company Director Castaly Lombe will give 2 free evening talks in Melbourne in August exposing the critical 3 things people need to achieve life goals.

She said “Most people are exposed to goal setting in the work place, and while there is some overlap, the productivity orientated goal setting style can be a poor model for people’s personal life goals.”

“For example, when a baby is learning to walk, we don’t apply S.M.A.R.T.  (Specific, measureable, achievable, realistic and timely). The baby walks when it is ready. There is a right time for every baby and everybody. Life goals are like that,” she said.

Mrs Lombe said this simple understanding would save people tonnes of guilt and reduce the number of people who abandoned goal setting altogether. 

“Unlike productivity driven work goals, when people set life goals, we are looking for passion that will drive us through the tough times! People need 3 important support elements. They need a Life Purpose on top and self reflection underneath. Goals are just part of a more complete picture of what the whole person becomes as they make this journey called life,” she said.

Most people do life goals without these support elements, New Year’s Resolutions are a good example, most fail.

Mrs Lombe will talk about tried and true, practical and useful methods people can use to achieve life goals as well as modern tools and systems, like the internet and iphone applications. She says finding your personal goal setting style is really important.

“I show people strategies that work, systems that help, methods available, but at the end of the day, people need to be open minded, curious, inventive and individual in finding what is right for them. I recommend structure and discipline, but I avoid prescription. One size does not fit all.”  

As Director of several software publishing companies Mrs Lombe has almost 20 years experience with systems and their design as well as working with people and teams.

Grattan Gardens Community Centre, 40 Grattan Street, Prahran

Wednesday 25 & Thursday 26  7-9pm. Ring 1300 344 070 to register

What is 4me2realize, and how can it help you?

Meet the Director of 4me2realize

Hello,


I will be in Sydney on the weekend, to talk to life coaches and some other amazing people about 4me2realize.


Living in the country is blissful, but I also love visiting the city, especially Sydney where I was born and grew up.


I don't visit very often but I am really excited about this visit, mostly because I love meeting new people and getting to do the adult version of "show and tell" with 4me2realize and generally sharing with people.


I won't have a lot of spare time, but I would still love to meet anyone who would be interested in finding out more about 4me2realize and how it can help people realize their life.


Let me know if you're intersted ASAP, I fly into town early Friday morning.


P/S If you're not in Sydney don't fret, give me a call and take advantage of our FREE online demo.

Thank you
Cas

What’s wrong with goals and getting stuff?

For most of us, we’ve been told to write our goals, review them regularly and achieve them happily.

But we don’t do it.

I spoke last week with a lady that taught goal setting but didn’t use any of the strategies she taught!

Why is this? For some of us, it is overwhelm, but underneath, I think many of us find the whole process lacks any real meaning. Failed resolutions make us wary of a process that requires lots of effort and delivers so little.

There’s also an underlying distrust of a system that puts us on a treadmill.... achieve this goal, then you will be happy. Then what? Achieve another goal, suddenly it sounds like a trap, never ending, drudgery. And the happiness, mere illusion.

Inherently, we all understand stuff doesn’t buy happiness. But we are all pretty sold on the concept aren’t we? Who would knock back a nice new car, a big house, a status handbag, diamond ring, racing yacht/fishing charter, or on-snow chalet?

So why would anyone set goals if achieving the goal isn’t the outcome it’s cracked up to be? Exactly. So we don’t.... Yet the self help gurus continue to insist, set those goals. And we continue to resist. Get stuffed, go away, I just want to live my life doing what I love. Exactly. So why set goals?

For the journey.... ah ha. For what you learn along the way. NOT what you get, get it? For the emotions, the feelings, the experiences, the life lived fully. That’s why. And the best goal of all is a Life Purpose that guides you in all your seeking, questing, believing, in your noblest endeavours and the giving of your gifts...

And that’s why its recommend you start at the pointy end with your Life Purpose. Because when you align your goals to your driving, inspiring, motivating, passionate, fulfilling Life Purpose, all the empty drudgery of goal setting, goes away.

It changes from what you get, to what you give. It changes from stuff, to experiences. It changes from a trap to deeply satisfying. It becomes meaningful, because you are on a journey to realize your potential. You know exactly WHERE you are going.

And every challenge and unexpected event is just a bleep on the radar that guides you, effortlessly, consistently, faithfully, to realizing the greatness within you...

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.

Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.We are all meant to shine, as children do.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

The above quote is widely misattributed on the Web and elsewhere to Nelson Mandela's 1994 inaugural address. The author is Marianne Williamson, from her 1992 book, "Return to Love" (p. 165).

4me2realize can help you set goals that are aligned with your life purpose and journal daily against them, so goal setting becomes meaningful, motivating and achievable. Try it now for free, no credit card required, just go to our web site.

Thank you

Cas

Your DIY Funeral eulogy goes like....

I’d like to tell you about 4me2realize....

But first imagine you’re on your death bed. Now just stay with me here, imagine you’re sadly near death  and planning your own memorial service.

There’s a crowd and everyone is crying. What are they saying about you? Then someone steps confidently forward to summarise your own life... what do they say?

Where you kind, generous, loving, a fantastic family person, a successful business leader, a prodigious artist, a lawmaker, a peace maker, a soup kitchen volunteer? Did you touch hearts or mend fences? Did you change the world or lives?

Could you do it? Are you happy with your life so far? Or are you like most of us, a car without a steering wheel, a traveller without a map, a person without a clear, defining, driving, passionate purpose?  Do you know where you are going?

Success psychologists say that 95% - 97% of the people in the world do NOT have written goals and fail, while 3-5% have written goals and succeed. [1]

Mark McCormick in his book What They Don’t Teach You at Harvard Business School tells of a Harvard study conducted between 1979 and 1989.

In 1979, graduates of the MBA program were asked to set clear written goals for their future and their plans to accomplish them. It turned out only 3 percent of the graduates had written goals, 13 percent had goals but they were not in writing and 84 percent had no specific goals at all–aside from getting out of school and enjoying the summer.

Ten years later, in 1989, the researchers again interviewed the members of that same graduating class. They found that the 13 percent who had goals that were not in writing were earning, on average, twice as much as the 84 percent of students who had no goals at all. Most surprisingly, they found that the 3 percent of graduates who had clear, written goals were earning, on average, 10 times more than 97 percent of their graduating class. The only difference between the groups was the clarity of goals they had set (and spelled out) for themselves when they graduated.

Defining your purpose and aligning your goals to WHO you want to be makes goals getting much easier to achieve. 4me2realise is unique because first it asks, “what is your life purpose?” then it gets you to set congruent goals. And it is easy to use everyday so that you can really design the life of your dreams....whatever that may be, an art studio, a successful business, a big red sports car, a happy healthy family, changing the world.

Getting congruence or alignment stops the resistance, the tug of war between what you want and what stops you progressing.  Who has kept their New Year’s Resolutions?  Who doesn’t even bother anymore?  Resolutions without the reasons WHY are doomed. You need a strong emotional WHY to motivate you to achieve and you need congruence.

Knowing how to do this is CRITICAL to success. 4me2realize incorporates the best of modern psychology and technology to make it easy for you to integrate what you do everyday with your Life Purpose and Goals. It is more than just writing an “I want” or “to do” list.

It combines three powerful tools, Life Purpose, Goal setting and Journaling. As you journal against your goals, you slow your thinking down and start to recognise the behaviours that serve you and those that do not. In this way, change is easier. It asks you to analyse what you do, your brakes and your motivators...and in this way, accelerate your progress.

In summary 4me2realize is 3 in 1 software tool, that is integrated, interactive and online. A Virtual Life coach that you can use every day to design the life you want.

The good news is that you’re not dead. The bad news is you are dying. You don’t know when you’re time will be up. Life is not a test run. What is your eulogy? Don’t wait till your dead. Live the life of your dreams now. It is never too late or too soon to start.

With Kind regards....

Cas

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[1] A Study in Goal Setting By Tom Venuto, NSCA-CPT, CSCS   https://servere.mycosystems.com.au/exchweb/bin/redir.asp?URL=http://www.busywomensfitness.com/goalsetting.html

My Life Purpose

This article is 795 words and will take you about 2 minutes to read and will help you create an amazing driving, inspiring Life Purpose, the foundation up on which you can with clarity and focus build the rest of your amazing life...

What is the Purpose of your LIFE? BIG question.

I can’t tell you the number of people who stumble at this point. Stare at the screen for hours. Give up.

My advice is to persist, preserve. The reward is just amazing.

 When you nut it out, it is like sunlight streaming through clouds, you may hear an orchestra playing or angels singing. Your heart is light as a feather. Everything falls into place. You may laugh, you may cry with relief.

 Well that’s what happened to me. Everything made sense, all my life’s mistakes and achievements all meant something. I could see them leading me to this point and I could clearly see a path ahead. It was an enlightening, joyful moment. I wanted to share it with everyone I was so excited!

 A lot of people who love their jobs confuse their work with their life purpose. What you have to tease out is “what is it about my work that I love?” What are the essential elements unique to me, that I love?

 On the weekend I meet an old friend who is a press photographer. He’s been working for the same local paper for over 20 years. He isn’t just taking pictures, he wouldn’t still be there if it was “just” a job. He is a remarkable individual. Everyone loves and knows him. If I was to analyse him, his life purpose may be “to creatively portray and interpret the world in a way that captures, connects and moves people deeply to reflect and transform their own lives.”

 Notice, there is nothing about taking pictures in his Life Purpose? His camera just happens to be his current “tool” of choice... He can do this with any tool, in any role, with his kids, his wife, in his retirement, and today working for the local newspaper. And it sums him up perfectly, taking fantastic photos and connecting people throughout the local community. It isn’t just about him, but also about what he gives to the world through his talents.

 If you hate your job, then think about the things you love doing. Surfing? Horse riding gardening, painting pictures, helping people? What really turns you on? What gets you out of bed in the morning without an alarm clock?

Now what is it about these things that you love? What is behind it? What is essential to your character that is being satisfied when you do this activity? When you find that, you have found an element of your life purpose. Hooray!

 Craft it into some words. Take your time. This is your precious life.

 When I looked at my life, the things I loved best were writing and communicating to effect positive change. It was a common thread across several DIFFERENT careers, including motherhood, journalism and running a company. Creating change really turned me on and that is the main element of my Life Purpose today, to change the world and make it a better place... I do this by improving myself, raising great kids, running a successful business, selling my software. It encompasses everything I do and it so turns me on!

Your Life Purpose should encompass ALL aspect of your life, whatever life stage you are at, or whatever job you are doing. For example, selling Avon, as I did as a student, gave me many skills I later used in journalism! Being persistent was one! So it doesn’t matter if you are doing a job which isn’t your perfect job, because if you have a clearly defined Life Purpose, you’ll find the things in this job, that you have to learn, to get you to where you want to go...

Don’t limit your Life Purpose to the job you are doing, make sure it includes WHO you are when you are a lover, partner, parent, retired, working, playing, relaxing, being the one, true, unique, marvellous, amazing individual that is, the remarkable, ONLY YOU!

 Good luck with the Big Question, when you get it right, the small stuff is easy and it no longer dictates your life.


All these principles are incorporated in 4me2realize.


Why not try it now, click here to try it now? 4me2realize 60 Days FREE TRIAL


And if you order now you’ll get 3 months of free on-line support and a year of FREE upgrades.


Kind regards

Cas

Triumph in the Challenge.

I can still remember my workmate telling me I have to start looking at buying property.

It is still so vivid the feeling. The story I had in my head. I can’t, I have this and that and this to take care of. I don’t have the money and all the other non-sense.

Then I started using 4me2realize. It wasn’t by choice at first, I had to test it! There was a lot of resistance. Especially because every time I logged in I was faced with this BURNING BLAZIN’ question. It is the first question which one has to answer before proceeding with the program.

 “What is your Purpose?”

It took me quite a while to come up with this.

But I am so glad I persevered. The rest was easy and fun!

I must add that this software has helped me tremendously.

I started using 4me2realize and noticed a lot of discrepancies in my life. Example, I was talking a whole lot about building wealth, and yet I found myself only spending 2% of my entire time doing something about it! I was contributing a whole chunk of my life to volunteering to help others. Whilst this is a very good and righteous thing to do – it was taking 27% of my time! Look at the difference. My health was at 5%! Shock horror! My wheel was all wonky so to speak.

I needed some serious re-vamping of my routine and thinking.

So that’s exactly what I did. I changed my ways in some areas slightly, in some areas drastically. I noted my entire journey in 4me2realize and attributed it to my specific goals. I constantly reviewed my progress. It is quite fun and exciting to see how far I’ve come.

There are even some areas where I’ve been challenged tremendously. Wealth! Gulp! I’ve seen 51% resistance in this area. And this is the beauty of it, I’ve been challenged, yet I persevered and...Remember when I only spent 2% of my time building wealth (this was 12 months ago) I’m now at 14%.

So now, only less than 18 months since my workmate spoke to me about purchasing property, I’ve bought land in a prestigious neighbourhood and built on it, went on a 7 week vacation round the world, registered a business in Malaysia in partnership with my current company, bought a new car and looking to expand my property portfolio. I’m a much happier and balanced person; I’ve spent more time with my family and friends. I am also healthier and leaner.

What more can I ask for?

In saying that, I’m still a work in progress. I am slowly tweaking my 4me2realize. But I’ve found 4me2realize keeps me focused, honest, and on-track. I’ve just recently put in new goals and projects for 2010. I’m excited to see my progress in 2010!

4me2realize isn’t a magic potion – that’s one thing I have to acknowledge. It is not to say you get your login and you’ll get what you’ve wished for. It is a tool. A tool that helps you achieve.

So compatriots, start Realizing. Triumph in your Challenges.

Yours sincerely

Iris

p/s: That's a picture of me in Montego Bay, Jamaica.

How do you achieve balance without joining the circus?

618 words, about one and a half minutes to read

Thursday 19 November 2009 from my Michelago desk at 3.30pm

G’day,

Life balance is a often used phrase these days as we struggle to juggle life’s demands while walking the work/life balance tightrope. Sometimes it seems just another unachievable concept to tease and stress you!

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Life balance is often measured using the wheel. The exercise involves dividing your life into categories and scoring your level of satisfaction in each category. Like in the wheel below.... then you find out, is your wheel balanced or wonky?

The theory is that a balanced wheel is where all areas of your life are scored evenly, and that a wonky wheel suggests areas of correction. This can be useful if you are aiming for a balanced wheel! But it can also be rather arbitrary, subjective and not so helpful. In my opinion, it misses the point!

What if you are a professional swimmer? Then Health and Fitness category, by necessity, would be maybe 75% of your life balance and many other things would score lowly, because this is what you must do to achieve excellence! You have to focus on what you want to achieve. This isn’t a wonky wheel or a life out of balance, this is a life designed around achievement of specific goals. The point is not getting a balanced life, but first deciding what you want and then balancing your life, actions and decisions to achieve what you want.

Rather than getting stressed about balance, it is much better to decide on what you want and then balance your life toward the achievement of these goals. This can be a huge revelation and reducer of stress.

The same applies to a woman who has made her priority to be a stay-at-home mum. Her Life Balance will be overwhelmingly weighted towards looking after the children and the home. Her career/work category is going to score low and there is nothing wrong with that if that is what she wants. If it’s not what she wants, then it’s time to reorganise.

The wheel can be a useful tool, but it is important to also remember that all of us go through different stages of life balance. For example, consider the Life balance in each of the following three cases...


Thee circles represent the time and energy three people in very different circumstances would spend on their career, recreation and relationships. The time they allocate is affected by Life stages and their own aspirations, not a subjective and arbitrary notion of Life Balance.

You see, how you run your life is entirely up to you and where you are at in your life and what you are trying to achieve.

When you use 4me2realise, we take the guesswork out of Life Balance. As you journal, especially against your goals and projects, you note how much time you dedicated to this. At any point you can see how much time you have spent on a project, on a big goal and in any Life Balance category you care to create. In this way you can assess and decide if your life is unbalanced or perfectly balanced to achieve your goals.

If your goal is to improve your finances yet you consistently spend most of your time in health and reaction, well it’s time to get real! 4me2realize doesn’t tell you what to do, but it very clearly helps you see what you are doing and get alignment with what you want.

Why not try it now, click here to try it with a 60 day money back guarantee.

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And if you order now you’ll get 3 months of free on-line support and a year of FREE upgrades.


Kind regards
Cas

Who are you?

“Who are you and who do you want to be?” is the most important question when you start to create a plan for your life. You want to find out what your life’s purpose is because this will give you the reason for everything you do in your life.

It transforms cooking for the family, into a loving act of providing the family with lifelong habits of good nutrition and healthy living. You want to be a wonderful parent. How can cooking be a chore when it has this inspiring purpose?

This is the secret of motivating yourself to get what you want, start first with WHO you want to be.

Your Life’s Purpose, put simply, is something that you work towards all your life.

We all have a purpose but many of us have never thought to describe it in a sentence. Do not fear, a “purpose” is not final or ultimate. It is always evolving. It evolves as we gain more knowledge and experience of ourselves.
 
Here are a few tips to describing your purpose:

• It should be broad enough to encompass many aspects of your life.
• It should be something that you never complete.
• It should be something that gives you a good feeling.
• It should be something that contributes to others.

The following questions are helpful in reflecting on your purpose:

If somebody (or a universal guiding force) looked at your life and could see past, present and future, what would they say your purpose would be?

Assess your life experiences to date, your challenges, your gifts, and your opportunities. Find the direction and reason for these, and how they might contribute to a purpose. Look at what you contribute to family, friends, and colleagues. In conversation and consideration, what balance do you bring to the situation?

Have fun and start Realizing your Dreams Today!

An Overview of this Powerful Tool

The software covers nearly everything you need to know about creating a driving, inspiring purpose and how to live everyday according to that visionary purpose, things like:

• Who you need to be to achieve your purpose
• What drives you to make goal getting easy
• What you must avoid to achieve your goals
• What goals and projects you need to do to achieve your purpose
• An automatic reminder system to keep you on track
• A journal to keep you focused and aligned to you purpose, goals, and projects
• A easy to use systems to track your Progress
• A great way to remember the magic moments in your life
• A tool to quickly create a personal reference of your life’s wisdom that you could use every day.

In addition, every feature in the software is there because it has been proven to work. Hundreds of experts have written about goal setting, life design and contemplative journaling. This systems incorporates all these proven strategies into one, easy to use, integrated, web accessible software system.

• Your driving, inspiring, motivating and meaningful life purpose, your dreams and visions of a better life, with
• Your goals and projects, what you do every day, with
• Your contemplative reflection, in an exciting process of self evaluation and improvement.

4me2realize is a great way to make sure the things you do will create the person you want to be, rather than letting life dictate what you will become. 4me2realize is your secret weapon for incorporating the BIG picture into the small details that you must do every day.
For your eyes only
4me2realize is web-based software and “for your eyes only”. You can access it anywhere you go through the internet and it is more secure than having it on a personal laptop. At the moment, 4me2realize is compatible with Internet Explorer 6 and above.

It is a culmination of a lot of what modern psychology teaches us about goal setting, life design and journaling, COMBINED with the power and accessibility of a private DATABASE in a software tool that you can start using quickly and easily

4me2realize has 7 shortcuts for 

• Easily tracking what you want, with what you do
• Aligning everything you do with your Life's Purpose
• Using Journaling to achieve clarity
• Minimising things that stop or slow you down
• Maximising motivators that help & drive you forward
• Creating habits of enlightenment as you contemplate your life
• Realizing WHY you want something so that it is easy and fun to achieve

4me2realize is a great way to make sure the things you do will create the person you want to be, rather than letting life dictate what you will become. 4me2realize is your secret weapon for incorporating the BIG picture into the small details that you must do every day.

Why and How is 4me2realize Different?

4me2realize is unique because;

1. Combines 3 powerful self improvement strategies, designing and applying a Life Purpose, Goal setting and journaling.
2. Puts them together in an online computer database that can be used anywhere, anytime.
3. The design of 4me2realize links Life Purpose with Goal setting with journaling, just like life, they overlap and interlink.
4. Traditional Journaling’s chronological limitations are overcome by 4me2realize because it organises information BOTH by date and subject giving people great clarity, focus and power in their life design.
5. These links help people get alignment and congruence between how they think and behave.
6. It helps people orchestrate their lives.
7. It is simple, fun and satisfying to use and people stay with it.
8. Once established people can clearly see it’s benefits in their lives.
9. You will actually come to look forward to your 4me2realize time each day.
10. It does not gather dust on a bookshelf after the event or after you’ve read it.
11. It is not expensive, your real investment is time and commitment for a better life.
    

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