Melbourne Cup, How to pick the winner

In  Australia, where I live, we have an annual horse race in November, the Melbourne Cup, which stops the country.

You have to experience it to believe it. It is an unofficial holiday, with parties at work, almost everyone bets, women wear hats, and there is a TV propped up on the desk come race time….

To back the winner of the Melbourne Cup is easy. You just choose the winning horse. Thousands of people do it every year. So now you know. Too easy.

In my first real journalism job for the local newspaper, I paid $5 to go in to the office sweep and was absolutely delighted to get the winner and win $35, which was a lot to add to my meager pay check as a cadet! The Managing Editor came to congratulate me, but he was mostly annoyed that he had lost $500!

It’s a gamble. And I’ll have some fun every November for this amazing horse race, but it’s not the way I play my life. I like more calculated risks.

How many people, maybe yourself, pay a lot to win, but accept poor odds by doing nothing more than putting the money down? Paid for gym membership and never showed up, bought the book but never read it, attended the conference and never implemented a single suggestion? I have done this!

You are full of good intentions, even willing to part with your money, but then the challenge of making changes, taking action, trips you up... 

There are two reasons why this might happen; 

1. Poor alignment; the plan you had is not right for you.

2. You lack something; help or knowledge or encouragement or understanding or motivation. Something was missing to get you over the finishing line.

If you had everything you needed (no excuses please) then it’s time to look and understand yourself and set more aligned goals.

If you didn’t have everything you needed to achieve, work out what’s missing, and get it!

In both cases, most people miss motivation and understanding themselves. They have the money, they have the good intentions, but they are just gambling and the odds are they’ll lose. I don’t like those odds.

Getting self awareness is a job you choose to do, just like building a business and putting out the garbage. If you do the work, good things flow and bad things get handled (yep – they still happen). With self awareness you will know if you are being tripped up by a lack or poor alignment.

So good luck with the Melbourne Cup, have fun with your flutter, but when it comes to your life, don’t gamble. 

Get a system that helps you understand and get alignment.

4me2realize incorporates these principles.

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	CASTALY LOMBE Chief of Makin' it Happen
	Be the change you want to see in the world. - Mahatma Gandhi

Stillness, silence and solitude

Stillness, silence and solitude

"Shut up! I can't hear myself think!" Have you heard, felt or said this? It is so noisy you can't think. You feel bombarded and overwhelmed. You can't concentrate or focus. There is so much clamouring for your attention, you don't know where to start.... sound familiar?

Have you ever wondered why every major religion has a meditative, prayerful, or retreat in solitude component? Why images of meditating monks on mountain tops resonates with us? Or solitary walks on beaches? 

(Picture taken this morning from my front veranda.)

Everyone recognises the need for stillness, silence and solitude, but how many of us get it, do it, experience it regularly? If you live in a big city, you never get a moment's silence, even in the depth of night, there is a background roar of traffic, machinery, artificial light dims the magnificence of the stars. You are never alone. Yet in the crowds we can feel the greatest isolation...how happy are you with your own company?

We are busy in a noisy, crowded world. When do you lay back, switch off, take time out? Think. Contemplate, stare. Rebalance to our natural state of serenity and calmness?

For most people in today's world, space for stillness, silence and solitude has to be scheduled and planned. Often it is not a priority against other competing demands.

Yet in the spaces we leave for stillness, silence and solitude, can be our greatest creative moments, insights, brilliant concepts conceived. Light bulb moments, life changing decisions. Without effort they come bidden into the spaces we allow. For humans contemplative time is essential to unwind and de-stress. To organise our thoughts and make sense of our lives.

Recently I visited Sydney for business. I was acutely aware of my senses being overloaded, by sounds and sights. I enjoyed the variety, intensity and excitement of the city. But I felt relieved to be home on the farm where there is not a billboard in sight. The silence is deafening and the stars are brilliant in the night sky. I am blessed to have this space around me all the time. But how do my city cousins cope? They are immune, unaware and unconscious, it has become background noise they ignore. In this way, we cope.

When you turn your senses off to the "hurly burley," it enables you to survive and thrive in a busy crowded environment.  You focus on what you need to do and the rest is filtered out. There is a risk that you will filter out some stuff you need to hear, feel and do.  That you disconnect from your awareness and consciousness. Good news, easy to fix, just make sure you have time for stillness, silence and solitude; and it doesn't have to be hard, try these;

·         Turn the radio/music  off sometimes

·         Turn off the TV for a day or a week

·         Visit a national park for a day and get into the bush

·         Meditate, pray or reflect

·         Listen more than talk

·         Get out of town to star gaze

·         Be alone

·         Find a place that is still or silent, and be still or silent in it

·         Lie on some grass and watch clouds or tree leaves

·         Be unoccupied with anything

·         Have a day doing nothing but whatever you feel like...

Finding space in your life for stillness, silence and solitude is a precious gift to yourself. You will be surprised at the results as you reconnect with feelings, sensations, feedback from your inner voice, yourself.

So next time you schedule the meeting, the shopping, whatever, plan some time for silence, stillness and solitude. Be amazed at what you discover within your own head space.

 4me2realize uses self reflection in the Journey section to help you hear your inner voice, to contemplate your life and make sense of what you do amidst the noise and clutter.

Wishing you stillness, silence and solitude....

Cas

Castaly Lombe -  Chief of Makin' Things Happen

Director Anti-Chaos Systems Pty Ltd

"Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi

Phone +61 1 300 344 070  www.4me2realize.com

What story are you buying?

I recently looked at some face creams and treatments that promised to make me more beautiful and less wrinkly. The asking price was nearly $1000. I was attracted to the promise of a more youthful visage.

It got me thinking what was driving my attraction? If I am more “beautiful” with less wrinkles, what then? Do I get more compliments, more sex, do I feel better? Does it take $1000 worth of wrinkle treatment for me to “feel” better?

You see, I can’t see my face. Unless I look into a mirror, my face is completely hidden to me. BUT everyone else sees my face. So, the premise goes.... how my face looks affects what everyone else sees and thinks about me.

And we all want to be liked right? So there lies the appeal of a youthful visage, to look more beautiful, the assumption is we will be more liked, loved, wanted, accepted, approved of, admired... all in a pot of cream for $1000. No wonder people buy it, but what you are really buying is a story.

I once met a lady heading for 100 years who was one of the most beautiful people I have ever met. She could whistle like an angel and was a fighter for good causes. We sat in the sun and she and told me her philosophy on life. Her eyes twinkled with life and joy. Her inner beauty transcended her stooped figure, wrinkles, grey hair, her shaky hands. She was a delight and a lesson that true beauty is an inner quality that transcends all outer appearances. We all recognise true beauty when we see it, but it is not something that fits a definition, because truth and beauty are uniquely individual.

We all know “beautiful people” we avoid because of their ugly personalities. So being beautiful on the outside is not automatically going to deliver you happiness and love. And a good thing too, as physical beauty is a fleeting thing!

So pots of creams, the wraps, the clothes, the house, the car, are external things sold on hope and the “unstated” premise that this accessory will win you what you already possess, love, approval, appreciation, recognition, security. It really is a scam of the most outrageous proportions.

We lust after external things because we are seeking feelings, internally. But looking for them in the external world is an unfulfilling quest, because it is never ending.

Could I just feel good about myself even though I have wrinkles, spots and blemishes? Absolutely yes. Will people avoid me, dismiss me, reject me if I look old? Absolutely not. Yet the beauty industry is worth globally thousands of billions of dollars. It trades on our insecurity.

Don’t get me wrong I love my face creams, make up and the way I feel when I dress up. But I don’t buy the story. I am not less if I look my age. I am not fighting my age. I accept my age, embrace it, love it. I earned it!

Have you ever noticed there appear to be two worlds? The one inside you and the one outside you? What I feel about myself, my life, my world, depends on what I think internally. This is an insider’s game. If I think I am beautiful, then I am.

All the things we seek externally, love, admiration, approval, acceptance, security, respect and recognition, are the things we lack internally. Finding a way to them from within is critical to fulfilment and happiness that doesn’t end when the pills or potions do.

When the sales woman asked me what I was worried about, wrinkles? I answered “No, not wrinkles, my wrinkles were being taken care of by my failing eyesight!” What I was really after was something that would make my sensitive aging skin “feel” nice in our very dry and cold climate. If the $1000 cream does that, then I will buy it knowing what I am really buying into.

If you are on a path of finding happiness from your internal world, then 4me2realize can help you on your journey.


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Kind regards
Cas

Castaly Lombe
Chief of Makin' Things Happen

Anti Chaos Systems Director
"Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi
Phone +61 1 300 344 070  www.4me2realize.com

What’s wrong with goals and getting stuff?

For most of us, we’ve been told to write our goals, review them regularly and achieve them happily.

But we don’t do it.

I spoke last week with a lady that taught goal setting but didn’t use any of the strategies she taught!

Why is this? For some of us, it is overwhelm, but underneath, I think many of us find the whole process lacks any real meaning. Failed resolutions make us wary of a process that requires lots of effort and delivers so little.

There’s also an underlying distrust of a system that puts us on a treadmill.... achieve this goal, then you will be happy. Then what? Achieve another goal, suddenly it sounds like a trap, never ending, drudgery. And the happiness, mere illusion.

Inherently, we all understand stuff doesn’t buy happiness. But we are all pretty sold on the concept aren’t we? Who would knock back a nice new car, a big house, a status handbag, diamond ring, racing yacht/fishing charter, or on-snow chalet?

So why would anyone set goals if achieving the goal isn’t the outcome it’s cracked up to be? Exactly. So we don’t.... Yet the self help gurus continue to insist, set those goals. And we continue to resist. Get stuffed, go away, I just want to live my life doing what I love. Exactly. So why set goals?

For the journey.... ah ha. For what you learn along the way. NOT what you get, get it? For the emotions, the feelings, the experiences, the life lived fully. That’s why. And the best goal of all is a Life Purpose that guides you in all your seeking, questing, believing, in your noblest endeavours and the giving of your gifts...

And that’s why its recommend you start at the pointy end with your Life Purpose. Because when you align your goals to your driving, inspiring, motivating, passionate, fulfilling Life Purpose, all the empty drudgery of goal setting, goes away.

It changes from what you get, to what you give. It changes from stuff, to experiences. It changes from a trap to deeply satisfying. It becomes meaningful, because you are on a journey to realize your potential. You know exactly WHERE you are going.

And every challenge and unexpected event is just a bleep on the radar that guides you, effortlessly, consistently, faithfully, to realizing the greatness within you...

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.

Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.We are all meant to shine, as children do.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

The above quote is widely misattributed on the Web and elsewhere to Nelson Mandela's 1994 inaugural address. The author is Marianne Williamson, from her 1992 book, "Return to Love" (p. 165).

4me2realize can help you set goals that are aligned with your life purpose and journal daily against them, so goal setting becomes meaningful, motivating and achievable. Try it now for free, no credit card required, just go to our web site.

Thank you

Cas

Your DIY Funeral eulogy goes like....

I’d like to tell you about 4me2realize....

But first imagine you’re on your death bed. Now just stay with me here, imagine you’re sadly near death  and planning your own memorial service.

There’s a crowd and everyone is crying. What are they saying about you? Then someone steps confidently forward to summarise your own life... what do they say?

Where you kind, generous, loving, a fantastic family person, a successful business leader, a prodigious artist, a lawmaker, a peace maker, a soup kitchen volunteer? Did you touch hearts or mend fences? Did you change the world or lives?

Could you do it? Are you happy with your life so far? Or are you like most of us, a car without a steering wheel, a traveller without a map, a person without a clear, defining, driving, passionate purpose?  Do you know where you are going?

Success psychologists say that 95% - 97% of the people in the world do NOT have written goals and fail, while 3-5% have written goals and succeed. [1]

Mark McCormick in his book What They Don’t Teach You at Harvard Business School tells of a Harvard study conducted between 1979 and 1989.

In 1979, graduates of the MBA program were asked to set clear written goals for their future and their plans to accomplish them. It turned out only 3 percent of the graduates had written goals, 13 percent had goals but they were not in writing and 84 percent had no specific goals at all–aside from getting out of school and enjoying the summer.

Ten years later, in 1989, the researchers again interviewed the members of that same graduating class. They found that the 13 percent who had goals that were not in writing were earning, on average, twice as much as the 84 percent of students who had no goals at all. Most surprisingly, they found that the 3 percent of graduates who had clear, written goals were earning, on average, 10 times more than 97 percent of their graduating class. The only difference between the groups was the clarity of goals they had set (and spelled out) for themselves when they graduated.

Defining your purpose and aligning your goals to WHO you want to be makes goals getting much easier to achieve. 4me2realise is unique because first it asks, “what is your life purpose?” then it gets you to set congruent goals. And it is easy to use everyday so that you can really design the life of your dreams....whatever that may be, an art studio, a successful business, a big red sports car, a happy healthy family, changing the world.

Getting congruence or alignment stops the resistance, the tug of war between what you want and what stops you progressing.  Who has kept their New Year’s Resolutions?  Who doesn’t even bother anymore?  Resolutions without the reasons WHY are doomed. You need a strong emotional WHY to motivate you to achieve and you need congruence.

Knowing how to do this is CRITICAL to success. 4me2realize incorporates the best of modern psychology and technology to make it easy for you to integrate what you do everyday with your Life Purpose and Goals. It is more than just writing an “I want” or “to do” list.

It combines three powerful tools, Life Purpose, Goal setting and Journaling. As you journal against your goals, you slow your thinking down and start to recognise the behaviours that serve you and those that do not. In this way, change is easier. It asks you to analyse what you do, your brakes and your motivators...and in this way, accelerate your progress.

In summary 4me2realize is 3 in 1 software tool, that is integrated, interactive and online. A Virtual Life coach that you can use every day to design the life you want.

The good news is that you’re not dead. The bad news is you are dying. You don’t know when you’re time will be up. Life is not a test run. What is your eulogy? Don’t wait till your dead. Live the life of your dreams now. It is never too late or too soon to start.

With Kind regards....

Cas

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[1] A Study in Goal Setting By Tom Venuto, NSCA-CPT, CSCS   https://servere.mycosystems.com.au/exchweb/bin/redir.asp?URL=http://www.busywomensfitness.com/goalsetting.html

Do you have a mental crap cupboard?

After a lovely breakfast in bed prepared by my teenage son I cleaned up the linen cupboard on Mother’s Day last. Not very glamorous, but revealing.

There’s a huge pile for the church jumble sale. What struck me was the excess; 2 feather quilts, 4 wool blankets, 5 sleeping bags, 10 pillows and cushions, 30 sheets, 16 pillowcases, 15 towels, 3 mattress protectors and a box of toys and clothes. It was a miracle the cupboard didn’t explode! How did this happen? How did I accumulate all this stuff I didn’t need?

I learnt a lot from cleaning the linen cupboard, because I think we all have crappy cupboards.... do you recognise these symptoms?

• It’s been building up for years.
• But you push it to the background, out of sight out of mind
• It annoys you
• But you never can manage the motivation to do something about it
• It seems bigger than it is
• It affects you every day (every time I went to that cupboard it was a nightmare)
• It makes your life a misery
• You tell yourself you’ll fix it tomorrow
• It’s making your life messy
• You don’t need it
• But you hold onto it out of a false sense of security
• You know how to fix it

This cupboard is an analogy for a lot of behaviour we do. Behaviour that doesn’t serve us but we seem incapable of changing.

If you are struggling with a crappy cupboard of your own.... weight loss, bad moods, anger, shyness, poor relationships, financial problems, etc... then it helps if you can understand, the problem isn’t the problem, it’s your behaviour that’s the problem.

The good news is you can change your behaviour. Psychologists have defined the steps of change that occur and you can use these to clean out your own emotional crap cupboards. First you have to believe three things;

1. This must change NOW; link pain to NOT changing and pleasure to changing to help motivate action.
2. I must change it now; take ownership /responsibility for the problem within yourself.
3. I can change it; the past does not = the future, believe you can.

Then you must take action. Again there are 3 steps;
1. Leverage. Get leverage on yourself. Associate massive, immediate and unbearable levels of pain if you don’t change now.
Change is never a matter of ability, it is a matter of motivation.
If you CAN’T then you MUST

“Oh, I can’t do that” – watch out for the power of our words/thoughts.
“Oh, I could try that” - better words, but not fully committed.
“Oh, I could do that” – best effect, empowering and enabling.

2. Interpret the pattern
Be aware of what you are doing. To change a behaviour pattern, first you must recognise it. If you have been doing it for years, it may take doing something radical or ridiculous to jolt your awareness of the pattern. Set up something that you will do every time you start playing the old pattern. I know one person who would simply lie down on the ground! Very hard to take your old excuses seriously when you are horizontal unexpectedly in a public! This might not be for you, but you get the idea.... Before you start something new, recognise the old.

3. Create an empowering alternative, swap the bad habit for a good habit
Replace the old pattern with an empowering, more fulfilling, rewarding alternative. Reinforce, practice, and train yourself to do the new pattern, so you become addicted to it. That way you are not depriving yourself. For example I broke the coffee habit by replacing it with beautiful herbal teas. I didn’t deprive myself, I just replaced one bad habit with a good one. Now I love my green tea pot ritual. Replace don’t deny. It’s too hard to break an old pattern, just replace it with a new more rewarding pattern.

If it doesn’t work – don’t give up. Try again BUT do something different!

Stupidity is doing the same thing that didn’t work, over again.

Change, do again, doesn’t work, change, try something different. The massively successful are those who have had the most failures. Be persistent. Fail faster. Welcome your failures as lessons to be learned, dance with your fear of failure. Experience comes from bad experiences.

There are 5 elements of change, the chemistry of transformation. Remember addiction is a big scary word for a bad habit. Good news, you can get addicted to good habits

1. Satiation – You really have had enough. If you haven’t, try overdosing on your bad thing.
2. Get dissatisfied with the crap you are doing. It doesn’t give you the rewards anymore.
3. Get to the threshold where change becomes an absolute MUST, don’t look backwards, look forwards.
4. Get an insight, awareness of your bad habit/problem/issue and realize you can’t blame others , that you can do something yourself and that it will transform your life.
5. Jump through the opening. Take action. Face your fears, dance with them. Do something, ring someone, pledge someone, break the cycle, replace the habit. Take massive action. People are rewarded in public from what they practice massively in private. Your crap cupboard is very private. You can talk the talk and never walk the walk.

I found an understanding of mastery helped me when I was making changes. There are 3 steps, and often we get stuck on step one!

1.Cognative Mastery. Intellectual understanding. Knowing is not enough. Everyone knows stuff they don’t do, or should do
2. Emotional Mastery. There are emotional consequences to what you know, and what you do.
• Do you remember where you were when 9/11 happened?
• When someone very dear or a loved one died?
The memory is clear because of the emotional intensity attached to the event. The more emotional intensity you can attach - the more you learn.
3. Physical Mastery. It gets into your body and once it gets into your body you can do it easily. Repetition also helps.

If you want to change the crap in your cupboard / behaviours that don’t serve you – write out all the reasons WHY it is a must. The Why comes FIRST. The How comes 2nd. Reasons come first – answers come 2nd. Once you know why you must do it, you work out how you can do it. Add emotions, the more intense the better.

Imagine what life would be like if you don’t change, double, triple and quadruple that feeling…. Imagine life when you do change, double, triple and quadruple that feeling….
Now you have emotional intensity to help motivate you. Emotions give you intensity. Intensity gives you leverage.

Involve other people. Find people who want you to improve and stick with them. You don’t need friends who only feel secure when you are doing bad stuff. Let them deal with their own crap cupboard.

Now I must run, I’m off to the church jumble sale. My linen excess will keep people warm this winter. That’s a great feeling. And I’m loving my new tidy cupboard. Life is so much more fulfilling, easy, rewarding, satisfying and happy, with clean cupboards!

All of these principles are made easy in 4me2realize. If you want to seriously change your life, get a system that makes it easier.

Kind regards

Cas

Bringing Peace to the Life Balance War

Life Balance is such a trendy term at the moment. We are supposed to be able to balance our work and our life somehow. This dualistic approach tends to turn life and work into competing forces fighting over you. I don’t like this idea and living it is hell!


So how to avoid it? Add another element.


Doesn’t this mean there is more competing interests for you. No, because the third element is YOU!


Adding you, means you devote as much energy to yourself as you would to your work or any other area of your life, like you wife, girlfriend, family, friends, sports or hobbies.


When you devote the appropriate amount of time to developing yourself, everything benefits.

I prefer this more peaceful triology of work, life and self in balance, each complimenting the other in a meaningful and beautiful dance through life. And notice what a balanced life looks like? A peace symbol. Coincidence or not, it has a nice feel about it.


When you find yourself between these three areas the result is a more peaceful, aligned life.

In today’s busy world, it seems the first casualty is our personal peace, time to think, contemplate and be considered. Work and life seem to keep their share, funny that! You can blame the world, or you can step up and take responsibility, at least for yourself, by taking time to develop yourself.


When I imagine a highly evolved person, I think of monks on mountaintops. People who spend a lot of their time on their own, developing their inner self first.


We don’t have to become monks! But just a nudge of more time for yourself can be restorative.


4me2realize creates an environment where you are guided through a process of self analysis and then integrates and encourages contemplation and review. Rather than sending you to mountain tops, it uses modern software. But the result is the same, time for you and peace in your life.


How much time for yourself? Well it just depends, on you. But I know I am better if I take at least an hour for myself every day! And that’s not at the gym or in front of the TV! For some people, just 15 minutes a day is a great start.


Warning, as you start the habit of taking time for yourself, it becomes addictive. As you improve yourself, the world around you also improves. It is a wonderful, self perpetuating spiral. It feels great.


It doesn’t matter how much money you make, how old or young you are, what your job or relationships are, you can start right now, today on improving yourself. You need nothing but time and commitment.


So where do you start once you have found a few minutes and the will? I of course am going to suggest you try 4me2realize.


And right now you can try it for free for 60 days. That’s enough time to start a really good habit and get on the path of self improvement.


Peace be with you


Kind regards


Cas

The Truth Shop a modern fairytale

I could hardly believe my eyes when I saw the name of the shop: THE TRUTH SHOP.


The salesgirl was very polite: What type of truth did I wish to purchase, partial or whole?

The whole truth, of course. No deceptions for me, no defences, no rationalizations. I wanted my truth plain and unadulterated. She waved me on to another side of the store.

The salesman there pointed to the price tag. "The price is very high, sir," he said. "What is it?" I asked, determined to get the whole truth, no matter what it cost. "Your security, sir," he answered.

I came away with a heavy heart. I still need the safety of my unquestioned beliefs.

And so the story goes.... but what does it all mean? Well, have you tried the truth test?

If something is true, it is true for everyone.


The temperature is 27 degrees is true. But only right here, right now, for me only, give me a minute and it is no longer true!....arg Truth can be a tricky, slippery little customer....

“You have to work hard to get ahead,” is not true. Our heads are full of beliefs that we dress up as truths. Why? These truths (belief systems) give us security! That is why we hold on to them sooooo tightly.

They were given to us before we ever asked for them or knew what they were. They are like unasked for gifts of dubious quality. They come from parents and teachers and childhood experiences. They create our patterns of thinking and behaviour. We have become accustomed, comfortable, dependable and familiar with them because they make us feel safe.
“ A tooth for a tooth, and eye for an eye.”

“Only nice people get good things,”

“ You can never get enough.”

“I am never good enough”

But because they are beliefs, they are just creations in our heads. I can create any truth (belief) in my head. And I can change and choose what to believe.


With this understanding, “The truth,” morphs into something resembling a heat haze on the horizon. It looks substantial, like life giving water, but when you get there, it is nothing!

You can change what is true for you any day you want, but the price is security. To get something new, you must give up the old to make space for the new.

To test the truth of anything ask yourself, “if this is true, is it true for everyone?” This is your “truth-from-belief” filter. A very useful tool!
When something is not true for everyone, you have a belief. Celebrate. You have the freedom to change and choose.


This will work wonders when people start a sentence saying “Honestly.... blah blah blah”
When they dress up their beliefs as absolute truth (no names mentioned)... To throw them off, simply say, “if that was true, it would be true for everyone, and that is not true for me. I appreciate and hear your opinion, (call it what it is) and I understand this is TRUE FOR YOU....but I have another perspective, would you like to listen?”


If the answer is no, move on! Not everyone is ready to pay the full price for getting to the truth on truth ie letting go of their truth (insert belief)!
Hope that helps.


Love always on the journey

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Artist's Comments

we blind ourselves,

when it stands before our eyes,

for it is often easier

to cradle our daily lies

How awesome is that!

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Kind regards
Cas

My Life Purpose

This article is 795 words and will take you about 2 minutes to read and will help you create an amazing driving, inspiring Life Purpose, the foundation up on which you can with clarity and focus build the rest of your amazing life...

What is the Purpose of your LIFE? BIG question.

I can’t tell you the number of people who stumble at this point. Stare at the screen for hours. Give up.

My advice is to persist, preserve. The reward is just amazing.

 When you nut it out, it is like sunlight streaming through clouds, you may hear an orchestra playing or angels singing. Your heart is light as a feather. Everything falls into place. You may laugh, you may cry with relief.

 Well that’s what happened to me. Everything made sense, all my life’s mistakes and achievements all meant something. I could see them leading me to this point and I could clearly see a path ahead. It was an enlightening, joyful moment. I wanted to share it with everyone I was so excited!

 A lot of people who love their jobs confuse their work with their life purpose. What you have to tease out is “what is it about my work that I love?” What are the essential elements unique to me, that I love?

 On the weekend I meet an old friend who is a press photographer. He’s been working for the same local paper for over 20 years. He isn’t just taking pictures, he wouldn’t still be there if it was “just” a job. He is a remarkable individual. Everyone loves and knows him. If I was to analyse him, his life purpose may be “to creatively portray and interpret the world in a way that captures, connects and moves people deeply to reflect and transform their own lives.”

 Notice, there is nothing about taking pictures in his Life Purpose? His camera just happens to be his current “tool” of choice... He can do this with any tool, in any role, with his kids, his wife, in his retirement, and today working for the local newspaper. And it sums him up perfectly, taking fantastic photos and connecting people throughout the local community. It isn’t just about him, but also about what he gives to the world through his talents.

 If you hate your job, then think about the things you love doing. Surfing? Horse riding gardening, painting pictures, helping people? What really turns you on? What gets you out of bed in the morning without an alarm clock?

Now what is it about these things that you love? What is behind it? What is essential to your character that is being satisfied when you do this activity? When you find that, you have found an element of your life purpose. Hooray!

 Craft it into some words. Take your time. This is your precious life.

 When I looked at my life, the things I loved best were writing and communicating to effect positive change. It was a common thread across several DIFFERENT careers, including motherhood, journalism and running a company. Creating change really turned me on and that is the main element of my Life Purpose today, to change the world and make it a better place... I do this by improving myself, raising great kids, running a successful business, selling my software. It encompasses everything I do and it so turns me on!

Your Life Purpose should encompass ALL aspect of your life, whatever life stage you are at, or whatever job you are doing. For example, selling Avon, as I did as a student, gave me many skills I later used in journalism! Being persistent was one! So it doesn’t matter if you are doing a job which isn’t your perfect job, because if you have a clearly defined Life Purpose, you’ll find the things in this job, that you have to learn, to get you to where you want to go...

Don’t limit your Life Purpose to the job you are doing, make sure it includes WHO you are when you are a lover, partner, parent, retired, working, playing, relaxing, being the one, true, unique, marvellous, amazing individual that is, the remarkable, ONLY YOU!

 Good luck with the Big Question, when you get it right, the small stuff is easy and it no longer dictates your life.


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Kind regards

Cas

An Overview of this Powerful Tool

The software covers nearly everything you need to know about creating a driving, inspiring purpose and how to live everyday according to that visionary purpose, things like:

• Who you need to be to achieve your purpose
• What drives you to make goal getting easy
• What you must avoid to achieve your goals
• What goals and projects you need to do to achieve your purpose
• An automatic reminder system to keep you on track
• A journal to keep you focused and aligned to you purpose, goals, and projects
• A easy to use systems to track your Progress
• A great way to remember the magic moments in your life
• A tool to quickly create a personal reference of your life’s wisdom that you could use every day.

In addition, every feature in the software is there because it has been proven to work. Hundreds of experts have written about goal setting, life design and contemplative journaling. This systems incorporates all these proven strategies into one, easy to use, integrated, web accessible software system.

• Your driving, inspiring, motivating and meaningful life purpose, your dreams and visions of a better life, with
• Your goals and projects, what you do every day, with
• Your contemplative reflection, in an exciting process of self evaluation and improvement.

4me2realize is a great way to make sure the things you do will create the person you want to be, rather than letting life dictate what you will become. 4me2realize is your secret weapon for incorporating the BIG picture into the small details that you must do every day.
For your eyes only
4me2realize is web-based software and “for your eyes only”. You can access it anywhere you go through the internet and it is more secure than having it on a personal laptop. At the moment, 4me2realize is compatible with Internet Explorer 6 and above.

It is a culmination of a lot of what modern psychology teaches us about goal setting, life design and journaling, COMBINED with the power and accessibility of a private DATABASE in a software tool that you can start using quickly and easily

4me2realize has 7 shortcuts for 

• Easily tracking what you want, with what you do
• Aligning everything you do with your Life's Purpose
• Using Journaling to achieve clarity
• Minimising things that stop or slow you down
• Maximising motivators that help & drive you forward
• Creating habits of enlightenment as you contemplate your life
• Realizing WHY you want something so that it is easy and fun to achieve

4me2realize is a great way to make sure the things you do will create the person you want to be, rather than letting life dictate what you will become. 4me2realize is your secret weapon for incorporating the BIG picture into the small details that you must do every day.