How do you achieve balance without joining the circus?

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Thursday 19 November 2009 from my Michelago desk at 3.30pm

G’day,

Life balance is a often used phrase these days as we struggle to juggle life’s demands while walking the work/life balance tightrope. Sometimes it seems just another unachievable concept to tease and stress you!

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Life balance is often measured using the wheel. The exercise involves dividing your life into categories and scoring your level of satisfaction in each category. Like in the wheel below.... then you find out, is your wheel balanced or wonky?

The theory is that a balanced wheel is where all areas of your life are scored evenly, and that a wonky wheel suggests areas of correction. This can be useful if you are aiming for a balanced wheel! But it can also be rather arbitrary, subjective and not so helpful. In my opinion, it misses the point!

What if you are a professional swimmer? Then Health and Fitness category, by necessity, would be maybe 75% of your life balance and many other things would score lowly, because this is what you must do to achieve excellence! You have to focus on what you want to achieve. This isn’t a wonky wheel or a life out of balance, this is a life designed around achievement of specific goals. The point is not getting a balanced life, but first deciding what you want and then balancing your life, actions and decisions to achieve what you want.

Rather than getting stressed about balance, it is much better to decide on what you want and then balance your life toward the achievement of these goals. This can be a huge revelation and reducer of stress.

The same applies to a woman who has made her priority to be a stay-at-home mum. Her Life Balance will be overwhelmingly weighted towards looking after the children and the home. Her career/work category is going to score low and there is nothing wrong with that if that is what she wants. If it’s not what she wants, then it’s time to reorganise.

The wheel can be a useful tool, but it is important to also remember that all of us go through different stages of life balance. For example, consider the Life balance in each of the following three cases...


Thee circles represent the time and energy three people in very different circumstances would spend on their career, recreation and relationships. The time they allocate is affected by Life stages and their own aspirations, not a subjective and arbitrary notion of Life Balance.

You see, how you run your life is entirely up to you and where you are at in your life and what you are trying to achieve.

When you use 4me2realise, we take the guesswork out of Life Balance. As you journal, especially against your goals and projects, you note how much time you dedicated to this. At any point you can see how much time you have spent on a project, on a big goal and in any Life Balance category you care to create. In this way you can assess and decide if your life is unbalanced or perfectly balanced to achieve your goals.

If your goal is to improve your finances yet you consistently spend most of your time in health and reaction, well it’s time to get real! 4me2realize doesn’t tell you what to do, but it very clearly helps you see what you are doing and get alignment with what you want.

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Kind regards
Cas

Who are you?

“Who are you and who do you want to be?” is the most important question when you start to create a plan for your life. You want to find out what your life’s purpose is because this will give you the reason for everything you do in your life.

It transforms cooking for the family, into a loving act of providing the family with lifelong habits of good nutrition and healthy living. You want to be a wonderful parent. How can cooking be a chore when it has this inspiring purpose?

This is the secret of motivating yourself to get what you want, start first with WHO you want to be.

Your Life’s Purpose, put simply, is something that you work towards all your life.

We all have a purpose but many of us have never thought to describe it in a sentence. Do not fear, a “purpose” is not final or ultimate. It is always evolving. It evolves as we gain more knowledge and experience of ourselves.
 
Here are a few tips to describing your purpose:

• It should be broad enough to encompass many aspects of your life.
• It should be something that you never complete.
• It should be something that gives you a good feeling.
• It should be something that contributes to others.

The following questions are helpful in reflecting on your purpose:

If somebody (or a universal guiding force) looked at your life and could see past, present and future, what would they say your purpose would be?

Assess your life experiences to date, your challenges, your gifts, and your opportunities. Find the direction and reason for these, and how they might contribute to a purpose. Look at what you contribute to family, friends, and colleagues. In conversation and consideration, what balance do you bring to the situation?

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Crewing at Unleash the Power Within 2009, Singapore.

Wooohooo! Castaly and I applied to Crew at UPW Singapore and our applications were both successful. Actually to tell you the truth the fact that I’ve filled out my Purpose bit in 4me2realize really helped. The questions (gruelling they were!) in the application form were eerily similar to the questions within 4me2realize. Yay for me!

We arrived in Singapore on the 2nd of September and checked into the Changi Village Hotel. We organised to meet up at breakfast and perhaps go into Singapore City to have a little peek before coming back to the Changi area to attend the registration for UPW 2009 Crew at the Sing Expo.

So at about 9am we set out to explore Singapore. First stop was Singapore flyer to have a bird’s eye view of the city. After that we took an open-air double-decker tour bus ride with a tour guide – it was delightful! We stopped off at Orchard Road and Chinatown after that.

We reported for duty at the Sing Expo at about 2.30pm. There were about 75 of us from around the world who decided to contribute time and resources towards helping to make the event more enjoyable and for the participants to have the maximum experience from UPW.

We were all given Crew tee-shirts, duties and name tags. We felt belonged. And we belonged to a legion of fantastically amazing people! We were all there for one Purpose; to make the event the best event ever, and to ensure that participants get the full impact of the event.

It was an amazing time for me, as we got to work with many remarkable human beings (the Crew). We got to meet Loren Slocum who acts as the Event Director for all Tony’s events and she is also the Founder, CEO and President of Lobela International who wrote the book “Life Tuneups” as well as other amazingly inspiring and high calibre people who lent their time and resources to making this event a magnificent one.

And on the first night, I walked on fire AGAIN! Yay! Exhilarating!

Throughout the event, I danced on stage 3 times! Once with Joseph McClendon III and another time with Tony himself!

We all know who Tony Robbins is but not many people know about Joseph, he is the founder of the Pro-Sequences Research Group, instructor at UCLA, International speaker, Senior Head Trainer and Instructor at Robbins Research’s highly acclaimed Mastery University and co-author of many of Tony’s books.

On the last day that Tony was presenting at this 4 day event, The Crew (small but mighty team we were!) was invited on stage in front of the 5000 strong-crowd of participants and I was at the very front and towards the middle. What an experience!

Tony led the way by singing us the gratitude song. Now, this is special! He was at the front, facing US, The Crew! Amazing! He announced that we did an astonishing job, seeing that the usual allocation was 1 Crew member per 40 odd participants. There were only 75 of us! And that is how we were nick-named “The Small But Might Team”.

It was an incredible time for me. I felt very rewarded, seeing faces of enthusiastic participants and Crew members. Feeling it, being there, and experiencing it. We were all lacking sleep, food and toilet breaks (no one wanted to leave the hall and miss out on anything Tony had to say and impart!) but we were feeding off each others’ energies and supporting each other. Astonishing!

I’m so glad I Crewed at this event. I’m so blessed to have the opportunity to do so and I will be forever grateful for the experience, knowledge and bonds that were made with so many remarkable people.

Cheerios
Iris